Custom BDSM Jewelry

29 09 2010

While I was at FFF this weekend, I ran across a very interesting vendor who creates custom BDSM oriented jewelry.  While I didn’t purchase anything from him this weekend, I had a good discussion and carefully inspected the goods he had on display.  Symbolic Treasures was the name of the store. They specialize in custom work, and can create a wide variety of items.  The thing he was most proud of was a heart shaped lock that he created. It was very sturdy, I tried to pull it appart, and couldn’t get it to budge with just my hands.

He had a couple of very delicate, artistic collars on display as well, so this is another option for those who want a more sophisticated collar for their slave.

I liked this guy’s work, and while his stuff isn’t cheap, I think it is reasonably priced for sterling silver.

Check him out.

MV





A lesson to Remember

27 09 2010

This was something I posted on my personal page a while ago.   As I remember my journey and take pride in my present I think this is one lesson that I should not forget.

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I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat
But always keep that hunger
May you never take one single breath for granted
God forbid love ever leave you empty handed
I hope you still feel small
When you stand by the ocean
Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens
Promise me you’ll give faith a fighting chance

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
I hope you dance

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance,
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Livin might mean takin chances but theyre worth takin,
Lovin might be a mistake but its worth makin,
Dont let some hell bent heart leave you bitter,
When you come close to sellin out reconsider,
Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance,
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance.

I hope you dance….i hope you dance.
I hope you dance….i hope you dance.
(time is a wheel in constant motion always rolling us along,
Tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder where those years have gone.)

So I woke up this morning, totally late for work and laughing.  The first person I spoke with was my Master and I said to him “I want to dance Master”. His response included the words Cattle Prod…LOL  Not the kind of dancing I was thinking…LOL  As I started to get out of bed the chorus to the above song was playing in my head.  I looked up the words before I left for work and this song says what I had in mind.

The words to this song are about freedom, loving yourself, loving life, acceptance of the curves in your life, letting go, holding on, and enjoyment.   Thank you Father.

MV’s esclave (dancing)

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Questions, comments, please feel free to post

MV’s esclave





Centered Through Meditation

20 09 2010

One of the tools that I use to help keep me centered is meditation.

I meditate 3 days out of the week for 20 minutes.   I usually meditate with soothing music playing and in a dark room.  This helps me relax my mind after such a busy day which usually starts at 6:30am.  Admittedly it is hard sometimes and it takes bit longer for me to relax into it.  When those times happen I spend the first few moments just focusing on my breathing.  I take deliberate breaths in and out until I feel my body relaxing and my mind opening up.

Master’s constant teaching for me is to learn how to just be.  Be where I am at the moment and nothing more.  I have the tendency to be all over the place and many days in the future.  It has taken me sometime to really appreciate the times that I have for meditation because I kept thinking that my time could be better spent doing many of the hundred other things that I had to do.

What I realized though was that meditation actually helped me be more focused.  Instead of running around doing many thing all at once I do one thing at a time giving my full time and attention to the task as needed.

Importantly when I meditate it reminds that I am doing this at my Master’s command.  Each time I kneel in position I am submitting my will to my Master’s will.

For me, my submission to Master is one step at a time.  I become my Master’s slave always and in all ways.

“Some people think it’s holding on that makes one strong- sometimes it’s letting go.” anonymous

Thoughts, comments…please feel free to share.

MV’s esclave





Master Void on Consent

15 09 2010
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My Google reader had two interesting articles in it about consent and the law today. One happened in Australia, the other in Sweden. Both involve a man being aggressive to a woman. Both are kind of complex situations. The Australian one involves a man and his ex-wife/former submissive. The other involves a 32 year old man and a 16 year old woman.

BDSM is what we all are claiming to practice. But in truth, BDSM requires consent. My esclave consents to what I do with and to her.  She can have me stop at any time. But the other two went too far.  In Australia, consent seems very clearly to have been withdrawn.  A restraining order was even issued. She was with another Dominant. Relationship should have been over. Without consent, BDSM becomes abuse.

In Sweden, the issue revolves around the issues of consent and age. Can a 16 year old (with a history of self abuse if the article is accurate) consent to Sadomasochistic activities? Did her partner take advantage of her? It is hard to say. I don’t think so. Even if she is above the age of consent in Sweden, the brain is still developing at that age. No, I think such things are wrong.

There is no checklist to see if your relationship is abuse in a BDSM context. There are many, many relationships that would complete any checklist.  But there is one word that sums up the difference between abuse and fun.

Consent.

If you aren’t consenting to your lover’s curent activities, or you have been so abuse you can no longer not consent, please get help.

Otherwise, keep on having fun.

Let me know what you think, in the comments please.

MV





Random Thoughts – Parenting and M/s

13 09 2010

Just some a random thought for tonight.

I realize that Master and I do very well managing our relationship with children involved.  Even managing to have playtime with the kids in the house.

We use quiet techniques.  Meaning that I am not allowed to make any noise no matter how much it hurts.  For me that is tough as I am not a quiet person.  I  like to moan and scream and make all sorts of noises.  No such thing with kids around.

For instance on Master’s last visit here we did some impact play.  I don’t mean light play.  Master was punching my breast really hard.  This was made much more intense as I couldn’t make a sound.  Of course this was after the kids were asleep and with the TV on.

Our relationship does not differ from that of any other relationship with children.   An M/s life can be lived with children and I believe lived without any extra finesse or hiding needed.

Just a short random thought.

Comments please feel free to add

MV’s esclave





Where Will Master Void Be?

8 09 2010

Just a quickie today.  Thought I would mention the classes I will be teaching that are coming up this month.

The first is for T3WD in Columbia.  They have their vendor fair next weekend (the 18th), and I will be talking about how to manage a long distance relationship. Since esclave and I have been doing this for over 3 years now, I think we have some tips to share that might be interesting to you.

The next is the following weekend.  In association with the Leadership Network of the Carolinas, I will be presenting a class on IT for kinksters with Auburn Goddess. It should be a blast as well. My part of the class will be focused on how to set up a domain, website and other things that you might want to use as a kinkster to manage your online presence.





How not to negotiate: I will not be in a long distance relationship

7 09 2010

I am going to attempt to write this and hopefully it won’t come across as sounding full of regret.

When I met Master I was in a relationship with someone who was on the other side of US in the Pacific Northwest.  This relationship was really hard as I am the type of person who needs regular physical contact.  I am not much of a talker but physical contact gives me energy.   I like to snuggle and give random hugs and kisses and just touch a hand.   Also, I like to have sex with someone over having sex alone.  The interaction and energy exchange from bodies touching.  I like seeing the pleasure on my Master’s, seeing his body flushed from excitement, kissing his lips while we exchange breath.  Sinking into one another…his pleasure is my pleasure.

So having someone hours and hours away I realize is not good for me.    Besides that’s how relationship were supposed to be to me.  So after my relationship broke up while I was talking with Master I said I cannot do a long distance relationship.  Our goals included me moving to be closer to him which is why I continued to get to know him.  So a year after my collaring I  was supposed to move to be with him.

But, life got in the way big time.  Master and I met right around the time the financial and housing industry was exploding and the hardest areas hit were the areas where he lived.  Unemployment sky rocketed all over and jobs were non-existent.  So my moving with my family down there was put on hold and unfortunately, neither one of us knew when stuff would change.

So here I am in an unintentional long distance relationship.  The difference with this relationship is that we are in a relationship in which both of us are determined for it to work.  One thing that helps is that he is also here with me.   So we both have taken turns coming to see each other.  I can say that since we have been together we have seen each other every 5-6 weeks.  I think because of the distance we talk about everything and because we are in a M/s hierarchy it really forces me to continue to be open.   It has not been easy not being with him all the time but I think the times when we are together are much more special because of the distance.

My words of wisdom…never say never.  My view of a relationship was of two people being together 24/7 but relationships are engineered by the people involved in them.  They should not be defined by others ideas.

MV’s esclave








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