Breast Torture

20 10 2016

I ran across this the other day. Thought it was a neat idea so I thought I would share. A prospective partner was into breast torture, and being into torture I was interested. This sparked my imagination so I did an Amazon search for giant rubber bands….  Snap the old tits to the attention.

 

I found these.51lgnnien6l

18″ rubber bands, made from silicone. Have a nice snap. I can’t wait to try them out.

 

MV

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Negotiations: Are You Doing It Wrong?

13 11 2015

I was reading the other day about a very well known professional submissive who had a bad scene. While she was tied up, on stage, the person she was with refused to stop when she said to stop.  He was wanting her to say, “red”. It is sad to see such a fuck up. I blame the dom/top for the scene, but it is a good reminder that we need to take responsibility for our actions and the safety in the scene.  I don’t fetishize safety the way Jay Wiseman does, but he does make some good points. I believe I can simplify it a bit and still be useful.

I’m taking this as wrote that who is involved and where and when are covered, but if you don’t know for sure, don’t assume that a 3rd party won’t join in.  I would cover these topics while discussing the scene with the bottom partner. Not all do so explicitly so make sure they are covered, particularly if you are with a new partner you are considering playing with.

The aspects I would say I would focus on are the following in no particular order:

Stopping conditions:  What will cause you to stop? Safe word? A simple no? Medical condition? Bleeding?  Anything you can think of to end the scene.

After Condition: After care, who does it, is it needed? How much is typical? How long is typical? Is a follow up call after a few days appropriate/needed? Not everyone is the same, and if the bottom is new, you will have to play it by ear.

Sex/Intimacy: How much clothing is removed? What parts of the body is ok to touch? Be touched? Is digital penetration (fingering, jerking off) ok? Sex? Blow Jobs?

Limitations: I don’t typically negotiate what I am doing in a sceen because I don’t usually have a clue what I want to do, but I do know what the person isn’t ok with. No Canes? No whips? No blood?  Those are part of this.  Also, medical issues the person has. STDs, I would part of this. Can they be suspended safely? Anything that can be hinderance to the scene is here.

Anything else: Talk to each other, find out what they want from the scene. What you can offer in the scene. This goes for the Top and the bottom.

Good luck and have fun,

MV





Sexual Fetish Researchers Categorize Fetish Popularity

21 07 2015

Interesting study I ran across in the Guardian, where researchers downloaded discussions from fetish discussion groups, then spent 3 years analyzing them. Some crazy stuff there, but nothing really unexpected. Feet top the list, with body sizes next. Least favorite body fetish? Body odor. I didn’t know there was a fetish for that even

Oddest fetish? 2 were into pacemakers.

Check it out

MV





Bluetooth Clit Stimulation Implant (WTF?!?)

3 04 2015

Just a short thing for Friday, here is a bluetooth implant used to stimulate your clit.  Pretty expensive and apparently uses body heat for charging the device.

Might even be more fun if they made an app that remote controls it over the internet, eh? It is a neat body mod, if you are into controlling your slave like that.

MV





50 Shades of Grey Bumps BDSM Porn Searches

23 03 2015

Something came across my radar today. 50 Shades of Grey caused a bump in searches on BDSM while surfing for porn according to Pornhub. Hardly surprising, but interesting to note.  That said, if you are looking for better BDSM art than you would find in the 50 Shades books or film, I would look at the 12 artists referred to in this article over in the Huffington Post.  Much more entertaining and thought provoking.





A Spanking Game?

6 12 2014

It has been a while since my last post I know, but I ran across something I wanted to share. Kotaku has a new post about a spanking game. It is about a domme trying to get a sub excited by spanking him. The game, called Hurt me Plenty, is designed to be used with a Leap Motion, so you can get into the action. Gameplay is about our community’s focus on consent. Seems pretty cool.

It is an odd little thing, but I thought I would share.

MV





A Research Call

23 06 2014

I got an interesting message the other day from a young lady asking for her with her research. I thought it was a subject that needed more exposure, so I offered her to ask for help for her.  So take a look below and see if you would like to help. POC ResearchPOC Research (2)








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