Marriage and M/s – After the marriage

28 02 2011

I figured it was time for me to update my thoughts on marriage and slavery now that I am married to my Master.   This has been another learning moment for me and I am greatful for Master being my Master and not acquiescing and being my husband.

My Master and I got married in November of 2010. This is my joy and my dilemma.

Since we have been married I have found that this has been causing major issues for me. It seems that my mindset went to wife. I saw my marriage to Master as being married to my husband. Which put me on equal footing. I started dropping my protocols in terms of speaking and behavior, making decisions on which rules I would follow and really not being my Master’s slave.

The thing that bought it in to focus for me was when I told my Master that I decided that I didn’t need to meditate anymore as I saw no more need for it. I told him in such a way that it should no big deal and that he should be perfectly okay with this. Even though this has been his rule for me since we met. This is not about me meditating or my seeing the need to meditate this is about following my Master’s rule.

That was a severe heart wrenching ouchy moment for me. Things are getting better, slowly and more mindful and i have not doubt we will be stronger for it

Anyone else have issues with being married and being a slave?

MV’s esclave





Service Books of Days 2/21/11

21 02 2011

v Outside my window… (weather, what do you hear, what do you see?) is snow.  Seeing the snow as I was out today really surprised me as I was just getting used to seeing the ground again.  Of course where my Master is the weather will be reaching 75..argh

 

v my thoughts… are on completing all of my projects and feeling like I can J

 

v Today’s Quote: Everything you can imagine is real.

Pablo Picasso
Spanish Cubist painter (1881 – 1973)

 

I like this one as nothing is impossible.  I have seen how seeing myself where I want to be has made such a great change for me.

 

v i am thankful for…warm blankets fresh out of the dryer…mmmmm snuggly soft

 

 

v From my service training…(any skills, training etc; notes you want to share this week)  being mindful in my service to Master.   These past few months have been a strain for us and mostly due to me being Master’s wife and not his slave.

 

 

v From the kitchen…(menu for the week, what are you cooking?) smaller dishes as now it is just me and the 2 kids.  Seems my son Josh has been staying with his g/f more and more…sigh

 

 

v i am wearing…a white comfy turtleneck and blue jeans

 

 

v i am creating…(crafts, sewing etc;) Nothing new at the moment

 

 

v my adventures this week…(where are you going this week?)  More house stuff and working with contractors.

 

 

v Becoming well read…(What are you reading this week?) No new books.

 

v i manifest and co-create…(what are your hopes, dreams, and prayers this week)  Realizing I am much happier as Master’s slave.  This is my reality and where I want to be.

 

 

v Today’s Melody…(what music are you listening to? even if it’s just the sound of a bird…) No music at the moment but the day is still early J

 

 

v One of my favorite things…is talking with Master before we both go to bed

 

 

v further plans for this week…Continued spring cleaning (despite what the weather says) of the house.  Spring will be here soon.

 

 

v Still….life(share a picture you’ve taken OR a picture you found online that speaks to you)

http://www.sxc.hu/info.phtml?f=help&s=8_2

http://www.everystockphoto.com/photo.php?imageId=227767&s=1#top

 

 

 

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Service Book of Days 11/8/10

8 11 2010
  • Outside my window… (weather, what do you hear, what do you see?)  the weather is cool.  it was sleeting today.  four days before my outdoor wedding and the weather is sleeting.  but i won’t let that bother me because despite it all i am marrying Master 🙂
  • my thoughts…are flitty…lol  pretty sure that that’s not a word but i have such nervous energy that i can’t sit still and neither can my thoughts.  and now what i am thinking about is what will happen after we are married?  argh darn my need to know how the future will turn out.
  • Today’s Quote… The only thing in life you do in order is age…everything else is random… Me
  • i am thankful for…change and being able to accept change.  growth…spiritual, emotional, natural growth.
  • From my service training…(any skills, training etc; notes you want to share this week) This one is my Master’s slave.  This one will always do as the Master commands.  These are the thoughts that I am ingraining inside of me.
  • From the kitchen…(menu for the week, what are you cooking?)  my menu for the week is pretty basic…i am planning to cook foodstuffs for the reception/bday parties. 🙂
  • i am wearing…my blue jean shirt and brown pants.
  • i am creating…(crafts, sewing etc;) Nothing new at the moment
  • my adventures this week…(where are you going this week?) I am getting married on Friday 🙂  That is a big adventure.
  • Becoming well read…(What are you reading this week?)  I think I want to read the Lovely Bones.
  • i manifest and co-create…(what are your hopes, dreams, and prayers this week) My life in freedom
  • Today’s Melody…(what music are you listening to? even if it’s just the sound of a bird…) The clickety clackety of my type writer keys as I finish up my work before I take some days off for vacation.
  • One of my favorite things…is to just hang with my family…nothing planned nothing scripted just taking the time to unwind together.
  • Still….life(share a picture you’ve taken OR a picture you found online that speaks to you)

The title of this picture is peaceful, serene, calm….woooosahhh

 

 

http://www.everystockphoto.com/photo.php?imageId=665586

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As always thank you to hisnamaste who runs a fabulous blog which you can check out here:  http://servicesavoirfaire.blogspot.com/

Comments are always welcomed.

 

MV’s esclave





Thoughts On My Upcoming Marriage

5 11 2010

 

This time next week I will be married to my slave. For myself, this isn’t a big deal for the most part. It simplifies many of the legalities, though it may complicate finding a second slave. Or not. It is not something I can control, so I choose not to worry about  it.

 

For my girl, it has been something that meant more than she realized. It has taken away her ability to focus on her duties to me and at work. We are working on this. I have noticed that at each stage of our relationship, she reverts her behavior because she loose her focus on the role, instead she focuses on the event. But in reality, the event just is a marker for our relationship, and without the proper focus on the role, our relationship is meaningless. Well not quit meaningless, but the meaning is more aligned with the mundane world. It takes us out of the Master and slave roles we have committed to.

So, I have to renew my efforts in our relationship. I cannot allow my love for her to cloud my duty to her, to us really. Without our commitment to each other, to ourselves and to our chosen roles, the rest is meaningless.

MV





Marriage and M/s

5 10 2010

So Master and I are getting married yay.  But now I am wondering if marriage changes an M/s relationship.

Master has been reminding me that this marriage does not change our dynamic.  I am his slave first and foremost.  The marriage is purely for legal reasons only.

I am going to write my observations about this as I go along.  My view for me on marriage is that the man is the head.  I have not been married within an M/s dynamic an my last marriage was definitely not man first.

Another fascinating path in my life.

If you have any comments or observations on Marriage and M/s please feel free to add and share.

MV’s esclave








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