Blog Shows Menu from a 1912 Brothel.

3 03 2013

I don’t only care about BDSM, I like to read up on all things sexual. There are more things in life. Anyway, check it out. Let us know what you think.

London SE1 Escort Blog Borough London Bridge.

Secrets of the Cam Girls…

20 09 2012
Vaguely Worried Cam Girl

Vaguely Worried Cam Girl (Photo credit: Maggie Mason (Mighty Girl))

I normally don’t like to read Gizmodo. I find them a bit sensational for my taste. But every once and a while they post something unique and interesting. As I like to talk about sex and sexual thing here on HoV, I thought this story was very suitable. One of their reporters looked into the business of “Cam girls” and the girls who are behind the “Cams”.


If you think cam girls—those flirty naked characters that plague porn site pop-up ads—are raking in easy money, you’re right. If you think cam girls are bleakly stripping online out of desperation, you’re also right. Peel away the sex and pixels and money and you’re left with the cloudy truth about the Internet’s relationship status with these on-demand entertainers: it’s complicated.

I really think you should read the whole story: Indentured Servitude, Money Laundering, and Piles of Money: The Crazy Secrets of Internet Cam Girls (NSFW).




Let’s Talk About Sex (and BDSM)

3 12 2011

I’m seeing something today that I find interesting. More and more I am seeing new people into the scene looking for sex. Pain and Sex. Control and Sex. Spankings and Sex. Bondage and Sex. Very different from the world I came of age in.

When I started out, I was directed to improve myself. Learn control. Learn how to manipulate the flash of my partner. Bring agony and ecstasy to my partner. Sex would come to eventually, with the right person.And it would be great. Don’t limit your options by only playing with those you would fuck. Instead sample a wide variety. Try different skills. Learn. Grow. Be a better Dominant for your submissive, but play with those that were available so you can be better.

I think it is what made me a good Master for my esclave. We have sex, but our relationship is not based on sex. Sex is good, but Control is better. She knows her place. I know mine. We are both happier this way. And sex is better this way.

But there were a whole lot of people before her that I played with that allowed me to be who I am with her.And I appreciate them for the opportunity for growth they allowed me.

Some couldn’t imagine doing what they do without a sexual relationship. I can respect this, but I think they are missing out on a while lot Opportunities to learn and grow. How can you know if your partner will like something if you don’t take the time to become good at it? The first time may be so bad they never want to do it again, while a more experienced player can tell you what you are doing well.

Look at the acronym BDSM. Originally this meant Bondage and Discipline plus Sadism and Masochism. Later, Domination and Submission was added to round out the group. Bondage is tying someone up.Discipline means control and pain. Sadism is about inflicting pain, Masochism means receiving pain. Domination and Submission are about taking and giving up control.

Where is the Sex in that list? It isn’t there. And I think there is a reason for that.

Let me know what you think, in the comments.


Master Void on Consent

15 09 2010
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My Google reader had two interesting articles in it about consent and the law today. One happened in Australia, the other in Sweden. Both involve a man being aggressive to a woman. Both are kind of complex situations. The Australian one involves a man and his ex-wife/former submissive. The other involves a 32 year old man and a 16 year old woman.

BDSM is what we all are claiming to practice. But in truth, BDSM requires consent. My esclave consents to what I do with and to her.  She can have me stop at any time. But the other two went too far.  In Australia, consent seems very clearly to have been withdrawn.  A restraining order was even issued. She was with another Dominant. Relationship should have been over. Without consent, BDSM becomes abuse.

In Sweden, the issue revolves around the issues of consent and age. Can a 16 year old (with a history of self abuse if the article is accurate) consent to Sadomasochistic activities? Did her partner take advantage of her? It is hard to say. I don’t think so. Even if she is above the age of consent in Sweden, the brain is still developing at that age. No, I think such things are wrong.

There is no checklist to see if your relationship is abuse in a BDSM context. There are many, many relationships that would complete any checklist.  But there is one word that sums up the difference between abuse and fun.


If you aren’t consenting to your lover’s curent activities, or you have been so abuse you can no longer not consent, please get help.

Otherwise, keep on having fun.

Let me know what you think, in the comments please.


How to Get Laid

15 01 2010

Have to thank Kink Magnet for this one.  How to get laid, from Howcast. Enjoy!

Huston: We Haz Mo Sex; Fort Worth: We have a Problem.

1 07 2009

Today I bring you news from Texas.

First up, I found this today on the web: Huston has more sex than any other city in the US.  Well at least according to a non-scientific study by Trojan Condoms.  The Huston Press blog Hair Balls fills in the details.

So you can see why we might believe the “scientific survey” ain’t so scientific.

A polling company invited people to take an online survey and compiled 1,000 responses; the results: Houstonians can certainly bone it like they own it.

The survey says we have sex 101 times a year; people in the hellhole of Dallas-Fort Worth make it only 73 times a year. San Francisco is allegedly just sixty times a year.

You go guys.

Next up, I bring you news that is a bit more disturbing.  Police are being investigated in Ft Worth after a raid/alcohol inspection on a gay night club lead to 7 arrests and accusations of improper Police actions.  The story is a bit confusing, but I would suggest that anyone interested go to the source and read the story. There is a video as well, but limitations from my host prevent me from linking to it.

I should note that the event took place 40 years to the day after the famous Stonewall riots in New York. (see this for more).

Fort Worth – More than 100 people rallied outside the Tarrant County Courthouse in Fort Worth to protest a raid by Fort Worth Police and members of the Texas Alcoholic Beverage Commission.

Early Sunday morning, agents of the TABC, along with the Fort Worth police raided the newly-opened “Rainbow Lounge” on South Jennings St. The raid coincides with 40th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots in New York, an event that some believe as the start of the modern U.S. gay rights movement.

This is disturbing if the allegations are true.

What do you think?  Let me know, in the comments.


Walking and orgasms?

30 09 2008

Did you know that the way you walk can determine your potential for orgasms.  I was surfing the web this morning and found this article.

The new study just published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine suggests that women who regularly have vaginal orgasms walk differently from women who don’t – and it’s not all that hard to figure out which is which!

Okay, so the study was done with 16 women in the study but still interesting.

Enjoy and let me know what you think.

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