Breast Torture

20 10 2016

I ran across this the other day. Thought it was a neat idea so I thought I would share. A prospective partner was into breast torture, and being into torture I was interested. This sparked my imagination so I did an Amazon search for giant rubber bands….  Snap the old tits to the attention.

 

I found these.51lgnnien6l

18″ rubber bands, made from silicone. Have a nice snap. I can’t wait to try them out.

 

MV





Negotiations: Are You Doing It Wrong?

13 11 2015

I was reading the other day about a very well known professional submissive who had a bad scene. While she was tied up, on stage, the person she was with refused to stop when she said to stop.  He was wanting her to say, “red”. It is sad to see such a fuck up. I blame the dom/top for the scene, but it is a good reminder that we need to take responsibility for our actions and the safety in the scene.  I don’t fetishize safety the way Jay Wiseman does, but he does make some good points. I believe I can simplify it a bit and still be useful.

I’m taking this as wrote that who is involved and where and when are covered, but if you don’t know for sure, don’t assume that a 3rd party won’t join in.  I would cover these topics while discussing the scene with the bottom partner. Not all do so explicitly so make sure they are covered, particularly if you are with a new partner you are considering playing with.

The aspects I would say I would focus on are the following in no particular order:

Stopping conditions:  What will cause you to stop? Safe word? A simple no? Medical condition? Bleeding?  Anything you can think of to end the scene.

After Condition: After care, who does it, is it needed? How much is typical? How long is typical? Is a follow up call after a few days appropriate/needed? Not everyone is the same, and if the bottom is new, you will have to play it by ear.

Sex/Intimacy: How much clothing is removed? What parts of the body is ok to touch? Be touched? Is digital penetration (fingering, jerking off) ok? Sex? Blow Jobs?

Limitations: I don’t typically negotiate what I am doing in a sceen because I don’t usually have a clue what I want to do, but I do know what the person isn’t ok with. No Canes? No whips? No blood?  Those are part of this.  Also, medical issues the person has. STDs, I would part of this. Can they be suspended safely? Anything that can be hinderance to the scene is here.

Anything else: Talk to each other, find out what they want from the scene. What you can offer in the scene. This goes for the Top and the bottom.

Good luck and have fun,

MV





Why I love Electroplay

28 08 2014

I teach Electroplay.  I am glad I found this video to share with you why I love it so.





Traditions Forgotten

23 10 2013

There are a couple of items that have come to my attention that reminded me that we aren’t teaching the new people properly. So here are 2 things to keep in mind.

1) Keep it private.  By and large, people in this Lifestyle want to keep their privacy.  We tend to avoid full names (often just using an alias or a scene name). But one thing people forget is that it applies both in and outside of an event.  The privacy part that is.  Don’t go up to people you only know in the Scene and say “Hi” to them like you know them or you are their friends.  Just nod (or better still don’t nod), and move on.  You don’t know what they are doing in their life. who they are with, how they would have to explain they know you.  Just don’t do it.  Move along, nothing to see.

2) Scene etiquette 101. Don’t touch other peoples gear. Don’t touch other peoples property, Don’t get too close to a scene. Do’t talk too loud.  Do read this.

That is all for now.

MV





To Slaves: Yes you Have a Choice

20 07 2012
A BDSM-style collar that buckles in the back. ...

Photo credit: Wikipedia

Ok. I saw something on FetLife today that really annoyed me. A slave essentially said the following:

It isn’t my choice to do this, my Master made me do this.

Bull-fucking-shit.

Yes slaves, unless you are brain-damaged or brainwashed, it is your choice. It may not be your preference but you choose every day to obey and honor your Master. Do not demean that choice by saying that it isn’t yours to make. Own it. Be proud of it.

Now, if you are a slave who is beaten and kept chained naked in an unheated damp basement, then I am wrong in your case. You don’t have a choice. Everyone else, watch your language.

(And if your that chained/caged/beaten slaves master, message me about how the fuck you got away with it.

MV





Korean Tea Ceremony

19 02 2012

MV





Traditional Japanese Tea service

12 02 2012

Part 1. Part 2 after the break.

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