FetLife’s Great Purge

17 01 2017

Looks like our favorite fetish social network is purging again, and has been silent on it again too. Right now there is no credit card payment option, no add new group link, and groups and fetishes on the banned words list are disappearing. The only official word on the recent actions taken were on a post about removing blood photos and that it was due to the new political climate here in America.

I’ll post any updates I find out.

MV





Breast Torture

20 10 2016

I ran across this the other day. Thought it was a neat idea so I thought I would share. A prospective partner was into breast torture, and being into torture I was interested. This sparked my imagination so I did an Amazon search for giant rubber bands….  Snap the old tits to the attention.

 

I found these.51lgnnien6l

18″ rubber bands, made from silicone. Have a nice snap. I can’t wait to try them out.

 

MV





Sexual Fetish Researchers Categorize Fetish Popularity

21 07 2015

Interesting study I ran across in the Guardian, where researchers downloaded discussions from fetish discussion groups, then spent 3 years analyzing them. Some crazy stuff there, but nothing really unexpected. Feet top the list, with body sizes next. Least favorite body fetish? Body odor. I didn’t know there was a fetish for that even

Oddest fetish? 2 were into pacemakers.

Check it out

MV





Why I love Electroplay

28 08 2014

I teach Electroplay.  I am glad I found this video to share with you why I love it so.





Black BEAT 2014 Was Off the Chain This Year

18 08 2014

BlackOut2014Ok, I may be biased, but this is one of the best Black BEATS in recent years.  I have heard so much from the participants about how they enjoyed it.  There were so many new faces too.  More than any conference I can remember (excepting the first one). It had energy too.  And the after parties rocked (let’s not get into the male stripper for the ladies, I hear they had a lot of fun in that after party too). The DJ in the dungeon rocked.  What other event does that?  I’m sure there are some, but this one was awesome.  I hope that one day you guys have a chance to get to an event that is half this good.

Now I will admit my biases. I love this conference. I started on the first one. and have only missed a couple of them.  I have been the Head of Security for 4 years, and was on the Core Member board this year. I also was able to present on two topics this year. My Electrical Play Demo class, and a less formal Cane & Crops lounge.  I got a lot of positive feed back from the attendees which I really appreciate.

Did you attend Black BEAT, in years past or this year? Let me and the other readers know about your experiences in the comments.





Walk Away

26 01 2014

Negotiations are important in our Lifestyle. Even in a M/s relationship, at some point in the relationship you start talking about what is involved. That is negotiation. Finding out what you want, what you need in a relationship. And you have to find out what the other person is offering. Are they compatible? Will they get you where you want to go? Be who you need to be?

If they don’t, walk away. This is mainly for the D-types. Leave. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Do not manipulate the s-type. Do not try to convince then you can do what they want, if that isn’t what you want. That isn’t owning your shit. That isn’t your role as a Dominant. That isn’t being true to your purpose.That isn’t who you are. You are being dishonest to the s. You are lying to them, to you.  A real dominant owns their desires. Owns their needs. Doesn’t subvert it just to get some pussy. To get laid. This Lifestyle is about more than sex. Sure sex is great, but it isn’t everything.  You can find sex in a lot of places, with out deceit, lying, conning. Be honest. Be a dominant.

Don’t be a Dumbinant.

MV





Traditions Forgotten

23 10 2013

There are a couple of items that have come to my attention that reminded me that we aren’t teaching the new people properly. So here are 2 things to keep in mind.

1) Keep it private.  By and large, people in this Lifestyle want to keep their privacy.  We tend to avoid full names (often just using an alias or a scene name). But one thing people forget is that it applies both in and outside of an event.  The privacy part that is.  Don’t go up to people you only know in the Scene and say “Hi” to them like you know them or you are their friends.  Just nod (or better still don’t nod), and move on.  You don’t know what they are doing in their life. who they are with, how they would have to explain they know you.  Just don’t do it.  Move along, nothing to see.

2) Scene etiquette 101. Don’t touch other peoples gear. Don’t touch other peoples property, Don’t get too close to a scene. Do’t talk too loud.  Do read this.

That is all for now.

MV








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