BDSM 101 – The House of Void

Negotiations: Are You Doing It Wrong?

I was reading the other day about a very well known professional submissive who had a bad scene. While she was tied up, on stage, the person she was with refused to stop when she said to stop. He was wanting her to say, “red”. It is sad to see such a fuck up. IContinue reading “Negotiations: Are You Doing It Wrong?”

Traditions Forgotten

There are a couple of items that have come to my attention that reminded me that we aren’t teaching the new people properly. So here are 2 things to keep in mind. 1) Keep it private. By and large, people in this Lifestyle want to keep their privacy. We tend to avoid full names (oftenContinue reading “Traditions Forgotten”

To Slaves: Yes you Have a Choice

Ok. I saw something on FetLife today that really annoyed me. A slave essentially said the following: It isn’t my choice to do this, my Master made me do this. Bull-fucking-shit. Yes slaves, unless you are brain-damaged or brainwashed, it is your choice. It may not be your preference but you choose every day toContinue reading “To Slaves: Yes you Have a Choice”

Centered Through Meditation

One of the tools that I use to help keep me centered is meditation. I meditate 3 days out of the week for 20 minutes. I usually meditate with soothing music playing and in a dark room. This helps me relax my mind after such a busy day which usually starts at 6:30am. Admittedly itContinue reading “Centered Through Meditation”

How Not to Negotiate – “I desire to be your slave”

So when I started in this lifestyle I knew nothing about labels all I knew was that I desired to be with someone that I can give over everything too. I often say that I have no middle ground it is either all or nothing with me. So, hey, I found these people with menContinue reading “How Not to Negotiate – “I desire to be your slave””

Electrical Play Basics: TENS Unit

I believe that the best way to begin with electrical play is the TENS unit. (TENS means Transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation.) A Tens unit is a box you use to generate an electrical pulse which is used in medicine for pain control. We don’t use it for that. Instead, we use it to stimulate theContinue reading “Electrical Play Basics: TENS Unit”