Tales from the Sanctuary of a Dark Angel

27 10 2010

Sorry I haven’t been posting as regularly as I should.  Being unemployed is a huge time sink. But this week I have something I wanted to share with you.  Please help out if you can.


Greetings everyone. I just wanted to take a moment of your time to request that you send stories to me of your experiences and memories of PEPAtlanta and the Sanctuary of a Dark Angel. For many years, these two dungeons were the birthplace and growth of many people in the community, many relationships and even some marriages. I want to write two books, one about each of these places and I want to write them from the words and experiences of all of you. The community is very different today than it was in those days and I want people to read these books and understand and feel what made these two places so special. We had our problems and our challenges and yes, feel free to write about them as well, but both Doug and I saw some wondrous things in those years. First, you must understand that each week we invited you into our homes, to share our knowledge as well as the knowledge of others, to provide support and a safe haven were you could be and discover who you were and where, if at all, you fit into this lifestyle. Doug used to look at me and laugh when he said that one day he opened his doors and a few kids came in and sat at his feet and then they brought a few more and when he looked again, there was a room full. It was the age before the internet and these facilities were discovered primarily from ‘word of mouth.’ Every week we would tell you to bring someone with you next week and many of you did just that, lol. PEP believed in Jill Carter’s “Each One, Teach One” theory and it soon became our motto. Reading all of the stories shared on the FetLife thread let me know that most of you have a ‘favorite’ story to tell of your times at both of these places. I am asking you to please send those stories to me so that I can share them with the world. My goal is to have both books in publication by 2013 which will we our 10 year reunion since the closing of both facilities in 2003. I will be sending everyone a release form when you submit your stories and also any pictures that you allow to be published. (If a photo is used with multiple people, I must have a release from all parties involved). Although there will be stories that include PEP and Sanctuary in them, please try to send me separate stories for each place because there will be two separate books.
The e-mail address for PEP’s stories is: pepatlanta@yahoo.com
The e-mail address for the Sanctuary is: Dougssanctuary@yahoo.com
I know that I can speak for Doug when I say that for us this was always about love and family and helping those into self-exploration. I’m sure that Doug will enjoy these stories as much as I. We want those who never had the opportunity to experience these two places to be able to do so through your words and experiences. I am especially looking for stories from those who were with us at the beginning, in those early days.
After Nancy left Atlanta, PEP was held at “the House of the Ladies Way”, then our first apt, then the house on Lavista Drive, then the house off Piedmont Road, behind the Hot Spot, then two locations on Armour Drive and finally at 1763 Montreal Circle. I would like stories from those that attended any of those locations. Please distribute this to anyone that you feel may be interested since many have moved and are no longer local. Thank you and always remember to……….
Keep Love in the Lifestyle Always,

Lady D


You want me to do what?!?

25 10 2010

So early on in our relationship there were times when Master would ask me to do something or show me how something needs to be done and I took it as a personal afront.  I felt as if he was saying to me that I was incapable of making any worthwhile decisions and that I could not do anything on my own.

I had such a  knot inside of me that would constantly be added to every time he would tell me something.  There are times when I can be very passive aggressive.  I wouldn’t say if stuff would bother me, I would get snippy and expect him to read my mind.

So when he would ask me if everything was okay I would say, yes, and then get upset when he wouldn’t do what i thought he should do and probe further.  Make me answer him.  Make me tell him the truth about my feelings.

Yes, looking at it now I can see how unproductive for our relationship and how unfair it was to him.  A power exchange relationship such as what we have takes both of us.

So after make myself upset to the point where I was thinking seriously of leaving I had to sit myself down and get a grip.  Communication is everything.  I realized it wasn’t his telling me something it was my fear of being seen as incompetent.  It seems that I have been always trying to prove that I can do stuff.

I have learned that I don’t have to prove anything to Sir.   He doesn’t see me as less than.  He chose me because of who I am not in spite of it.

The best thing that has happened to me within this relationship is the amount of time I have had to get to know me.

MV’s esclave

BrideZilla…Not allowed

11 10 2010

As I mentioned last week Master and I are getting married…yay…really really soon…yay but argh.

Master said small ceremony big family reception.    Fine with me.  I think it would really be special if the ceremony included him, me  and the children.  Very personal…very special.

Planning this however has taken me through some changes.    I am feeling pressure in planning the menu, finding a dress, finding a location and finding someone to marry us.  I have been slowly freaking out and acting like a bridezilla as opposed to Master’s slave.  With the pressure of the fast approaching deadline, i have found myself being snappish, a bit short and whiny.  I haven’t lost my mind totally and snapped on Master, though as he has two friends that I don’t want to meet (Mr. Cranky and Mr. Sparky…electricity bad….lol)  Master said to me yesterday that basically I need to get a grip and remember some perspective.

What I need to remember is that Master’s directives outweigh my tendency to want to go overboard.  Small ceremony.  Master’s slave first.


MV’s esclave

Fetish Art Festival Returns to NC

8 10 2010

This is a fantastic event if you are into fetish art.  Next Friday, in Durham, NC. Unfortunately I won’t be there myself this year, but I went last year and had a blast. Fantastic pieces of art were on display and for sale. Great performances from rope work to burlesque.

More info can be had here. Be sure to buy your tickets early as I am told they expect to be sold out before the doors open.

The North Carolina Fetish Art Festival was created in 2009 by a group of kinky artists and art lovers in the Raleigh/Durham area. With few resources and little experience, the festival’s first year crew made a memorable event and spectacular party for the triangle area kinky art community.

Our mission is to support current fetish artists, inspire other members of the NC kink community to try their hands at interpreting their lifestyles artistically, and draw attention to the art and beauty created through the practice of BDSM and other fetishes. Additionally, we are also striving to support and excite the Triangle fetish community, and celebrate our freedom to create and share kinky and erotic art.


Masters: Study Slavery

7 10 2010

OK, this is going to be a short post. I wanted to talk about something for the Masters today.  We have to know a lot of stuff to be good at what we do. But I think that one of the things that is often ignored is the importance of a Master of knowing what is good service.

I would implore you to read all that you can about the subject. Become an expert on what it takes to serve. Know the mind set. Frankly, the mindset is alien to me, but I have learned over the years to appreciate it and to know what it takes to be a good one.

Remember to buy the slave book and read them first, before you hand them to your slave. It is just as important to know these things first as it is to know the other more Masterly topics.

Anyway,  that is my thought for today.


Marriage and M/s

5 10 2010

So Master and I are getting married yay.  But now I am wondering if marriage changes an M/s relationship.

Master has been reminding me that this marriage does not change our dynamic.  I am his slave first and foremost.  The marriage is purely for legal reasons only.

I am going to write my observations about this as I go along.  My view for me on marriage is that the man is the head.  I have not been married within an M/s dynamic an my last marriage was definitely not man first.

Another fascinating path in my life.

If you have any comments or observations on Marriage and M/s please feel free to add and share.

MV’s esclave

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