Baku Talks Bluntly About the Changes on FetLife. 

18 01 2017

I’ll let his words speak for themselves, but I will say it was a though and thoughtful post. 

MV





My Thoughts on the Recent Purge on FetLife

17 01 2017

Recently I posted about the new purge of forbidden fetishes and groups on FetLife. I want to make something clear. While I hate that John Baku and BitLove have to toe the line of the credit card processors, but let us be real they do. FetLife is a privatly owned website and has provided a great service to the community. But to stay open, they have to be able to take credit cards. It is unpleasant, but real.

My issue is that I had wished that John had published an announcement about the cleanup. It is true that many of these fetishes were banned years ago, though he tried to be clever and hid them for as long as he could to get around the processors.  I suspect that caused the issue we are dealing with today. So John, if you read this, please take a minute and let us know what is going on.

Thanks if you do, John.

MV





FetLife’s Great Purge

17 01 2017

Looks like our favorite fetish social network is purging again, and has been silent on it again too. Right now there is no credit card payment option, no add new group link, and groups and fetishes on the banned words list are disappearing. The only official word on the recent actions taken were on a post about removing blood photos and that it was due to the new political climate here in America.

I’ll post any updates I find out.

MV





MasterVoid Presents CyberSecurity Basics

16 01 2017

So, later this month I’ll be at CAPEX presenting on how to protect yourself, your devices and your data in the computer ate.  If you’ll be in or near Charlotte on the 28, it would be worth your time. There will also be outstanding presentations on Puppy Play, Vampire Play, and Erotic Flogging. It will be a round robin with each prenter presenting twice for about half an hour.  For more info, check out this post on FetLife.

 

MV





Breast Torture

20 10 2016

I ran across this the other day. Thought it was a neat idea so I thought I would share. A prospective partner was into breast torture, and being into torture I was interested. This sparked my imagination so I did an Amazon search for giant rubber bands….  Snap the old tits to the attention.

 

I found these.51lgnnien6l

18″ rubber bands, made from silicone. Have a nice snap. I can’t wait to try them out.

 

MV





2015 in review

31 12 2015

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2015 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

The concert hall at the Sydney Opera House holds 2,700 people. This blog was viewed about 58,000 times in 2015. If it were a concert at Sydney Opera House, it would take about 21 sold-out performances for that many people to see it.

Click here to see the complete report.





Negotiations: Are You Doing It Wrong?

13 11 2015

I was reading the other day about a very well known professional submissive who had a bad scene. While she was tied up, on stage, the person she was with refused to stop when she said to stop.  He was wanting her to say, “red”. It is sad to see such a fuck up. I blame the dom/top for the scene, but it is a good reminder that we need to take responsibility for our actions and the safety in the scene.  I don’t fetishize safety the way Jay Wiseman does, but he does make some good points. I believe I can simplify it a bit and still be useful.

I’m taking this as wrote that who is involved and where and when are covered, but if you don’t know for sure, don’t assume that a 3rd party won’t join in.  I would cover these topics while discussing the scene with the bottom partner. Not all do so explicitly so make sure they are covered, particularly if you are with a new partner you are considering playing with.

The aspects I would say I would focus on are the following in no particular order:

Stopping conditions:  What will cause you to stop? Safe word? A simple no? Medical condition? Bleeding?  Anything you can think of to end the scene.

After Condition: After care, who does it, is it needed? How much is typical? How long is typical? Is a follow up call after a few days appropriate/needed? Not everyone is the same, and if the bottom is new, you will have to play it by ear.

Sex/Intimacy: How much clothing is removed? What parts of the body is ok to touch? Be touched? Is digital penetration (fingering, jerking off) ok? Sex? Blow Jobs?

Limitations: I don’t typically negotiate what I am doing in a sceen because I don’t usually have a clue what I want to do, but I do know what the person isn’t ok with. No Canes? No whips? No blood?  Those are part of this.  Also, medical issues the person has. STDs, I would part of this. Can they be suspended safely? Anything that can be hinderance to the scene is here.

Anything else: Talk to each other, find out what they want from the scene. What you can offer in the scene. This goes for the Top and the bottom.

Good luck and have fun,

MV








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