Happy New Year

31 12 2009

I just wanted to take a moment and thank those that have been reading my blog of the past couple of years. I think that I have grown a lot while doing this and have had a good time writing each post.I have tried to take the time to focus my blog on BDSM related activities or events that would interest as many as possible. I also hoped that you guys had as much fun reading it as I had writing it.

In the new year, I hope to bring you more of the same. I would also like to get better at this, so if you guys have any constructive criticism or feedback let me know.

That said, I wish you all a wonderful New Year. May it be a good one.


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Mastering Mastery

28 10 2009

I ran across this video by Merlin Mann, and I thought it is an example about how to become a better person in the lifestyle. Now, watching this video may take a bit of patience and it doesn’t directly relate to our Lifestyle.  But it focuses on being the best.  Mastering a task.  Watch this video. Reflect upon its deeper meaning. I found it quite informative.

[Vimeo http://vimeo.com/7192517%5D

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Service Book of Days 9/17/09

17 09 2009
  • Outside the window of the train…it is still dark outside as I have been going into to work a bit early to make up some time.  I’m always amazed at the amount of people who are out of the house and moving and 5am.
  • my thoughts…are clear, peaceful and energetic…lol  I have a lot of stuff to do and a lot of energy to do it with.  This amazes me because I feel like for the past year of so my energy level has been non existent, my head has been cloudy and stuff has been happening around me.  Like I have been operating singular focussed.  Now I feel like I can actually participate fully in life.
  • Today’s Quote… Know, first, who you are, and then adorn yourself accordingly. Epictetus   From the Merriam Webster online dictions:  adorn implies an enhancing by something beautiful in itself.  

    I love this quote.   I love things that are simple yet effective.  I find I complicate things way more than necessary anyway.  I know I am Master’s slave and I adorn myself with His mastery, with His love,  with submission to my Master, grace, honesty, commitment, and willingness to be His fully.

  • i am thankful for…the small things in life and the clarity to see how important they are.
  • From my service training…I am sinking fully into my space with Master and learning how more and more my submission to him changes my entire life.  The skills I learn in speaking, cooking, presenting myself, accountability,  and relating to him transfer to every part of my life in dealing with kids, family, co-workers.  Feels really good to “live life wide awake”.
  • From the kitchen… tonight I would like to try something different to cook so I will be searching for a quick but delicious recipe to fix for the kiddies
  • i am wearing…black pants, black boots, black shirt with a white shrug
  • i am creating…order and clarity.  I am looking to find a cleansing ritual for my house.  I think I will stop by the local shop that sells stones and such to see if they can help me find something
  • my adventures this week… starting back to the gym…today…Thursday
  • Becoming well read…A dragonfly in Amber…The Compleat Slave by Jack Rinella…listening slowly to the Four Agreements (again)
  • Today’s Melody… And I gave my Love to you…by Sonja Marie  (Waiting to Exhale Soundtrack)  I wasn’t to enthused about the movie but I love, love the soundtrack.   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mrqOYlSZujA
  • One of my favorite things…is to decompress with my kids after their day at school.  Just chatting about stuff that happened to them that day and hanging.
  • Still….life… mmmmmmm ice


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 Master Void’s esclave

Interested in knowing where the idea for my weekly post came from…click this link.  You will also find some great ideas on service even if you are without someone to serve.

Service Book of Days – 8/31/09

31 08 2009

You know at one time I got tired of doing these posts every week as I found myself just making up stuff to put in it.  I think I missed the purpose of them.  The purpose is to not make me feel burdened but for me to take a moment and remember my life day by day and not just “go through” this life unaware.  At least that’s what sunk in for me as I posting this week’s post.

Outside my window…it was a bright day a little on the chilly side.

· my thoughts… are living honestly and open

· Today’s Quote…  People often say that beauty if in the eye of the beholder and I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realizing that you are the beholder.  This empowers us to find beauty in places where others have not dared to look including inside ourselves…Salma Hayek

· i am thankful for… the many opportunities i have for growth

· From my service training… to be honest with myself.  this means being honest in looking at and working through all of the messy emotions and messy emotions are not easy for me.  i might try and fool myself into glossing over and only looking as far as the surface but to be honest to myself and to Master requires that I do more than just the minimum.

· From the kitchen… curry rice, mixed vegetables and baked chicken.

· i am wearing… a turquoise sundress

· i am creating… nothing…i am letting my Father’s universe guide me

· my adventures this week… school shopping and getting the kids ready for the rigors of highschool and middle school

· Becoming well read… A dragonfly in Amber…listening slowly to the Four Agreements (again)

· Today’s Melody… “And I gave my Love to you”…Sonja Marie…From the Waiting to Exhale Soundtrack

· One of my favorite things… Laughing out loud…I mean really loud…makes the body feel good.

· Further plans for this week… school shopping and preparing the kids for school.  I have one senior, one middle schooler (7th grade) and one 10th grader.

· Still….life… simple obedience.


Master Void’s slave

Interested in knowing where the quote and the idea for my weekly post came from.  Click this link.  You will also find some great ideas on service even if you are without someone to serve.

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21 08 2009

2 Thessalonians 1:11-12 (New International Version)

 11With this in mind, we constantly pray for you, that our God may count you worthy of his calling, and that by his power he may fulfill every good purpose of yours and every act prompted by your faith. 12We pray this so that the name of our Lord Jesus may be glorified in you, and you in him, according to the grace of our God and the Lord Jesus Christ.[a]


  1. 2 Thessalonians 1:12 Or God and Lord, Jesus Christ

 You know there was a time when I preached the word of the Lord to everyone and anyone that would listen.  I would preach at every opportunity and with zeal baby…lol  Then one day I “heard” myself speaking and said “man I talk too much and sometimes don’t know what the heck that I am talking about”.  I started to feel like I was talking not for the Lord but I was talking to hear myself talk.  I started really liking people coming to hear me speak not the Lord.  It got to the point were the Word wasn’t speaking to me but I was still speaking.  I totally remember the point where I actually had nothing to say, there was no inspiration, no inkling, no nothing.  I mean everything was empty.  It was like looking into a cup and realizing that there was nothing in it.  Yet I said something.  I had to save face and keep these people listening to me.  I could feel people looking at me like “what in the world is she saying” and felt that they knew I was faking it.  So my inside voice said that the Lord is not speaking to me and that I needed to stop talking and listen.  With complete clarity and without a moments hesitation I knew what was said to me was true and my mouth shut.  That was many years ago.  It didn’t mean to me that the Lord had left me.  The Lord will never leave me.  He already told me that, on several occasions. J  It meant that my time of speaking had come to a point where it is now my time of listening.  So when people speak to me of the Lord, I listen.  When I see or am shown scripture I read and listen.  I don’t speak about or talk about religion, I listen and quietly, patiently wait for the time when the Lord tells me to speak again.  This has been a lesson that I have learned or needed to learn in many instances and thank you Lord for being patient with me.  It is an ongoing learning process to listen and not speak with my Master, children, family, work associates, and strangers.  In the back of my mind I always think I know and no one else need tell me but when I start to speak I hear the emptiness of my words and feel the frustration of those who are talking to me and so I apologize and listen.  Because what I don’t know is how it will impact me to listen and how it will impact them to be heard.

 “Non-doing defines doing. Sitting in stillness invites people to move. Getting out of the way allows people to fill space with their passion. Letting go of expectations leaves room for responsibility to come forth. All of this is integrity. Every piece of doing requires the strong presence of non-doing to anchor it.

 Stifling every impulse to intervene, to give directions and orders leaves space for others to design their lives. You can create a container and then stand by and watch it fill and teem with life. You don’t resist the natural movements of groups of people co-creating their futures. Instead you work on your own inability to be still, to want to own the outcomes, to want to invest your ego.

 This is not your show. You are holding space, embodying space and being empty and full at the same time. If they thank you in the closing circle, you have not done enough.”

 The Tao of Holding Space by Chris Corrigan (passed along to me by my friend namaste~)

 So I speak when I am spoken to and am thankfully thankful for the moments when I can listen.


MV’s esclave

Another Book Review – Service Included

6 03 2009

back again with another book review.

one of the many things i am interested in becoming more adept at service and learning about fine dining.  for my birthday Master bought me a book.  It is called Service Included by Phoebe Damrosch.

when i first read the description i thought it would be a good story about a waiter in an expensive NY restaurant.  i thought at best i would get to read a good story.  from the moment i opened the book i was pleasantly surprised.  this book contained not only a good personal story but a lot of useful information about setting a table, the different utensils and what foods needed what utensils (pearl spoons for oysters as stainless steel gives the oyster a metalic taste).  i learned that the differences between jersey and ashrys cows milk in making cheeses. i loved the little tips at the end of each chapter.  for instance:  most white wine should be served at about 55 degrees and red wine at 67 degrees.

Grace depends entirely on keeping the focus on the guest, not on the server or the act of serving.  this was one of my favorite quotes from the book and summed up perfectly why i desire to become proficient in serving. eventhough this book is not a lifestyle book I can see myself using the above quote as a reminder for myself in this lifestyle.  My focus should not be on how well I do things but on how well it serves my Master.

by the time i finished reading this book (in 2 days) i was seriously considering taking a second job as a waitress just to get some hands one experience.  the book did not make it seem easy to learn these skills and tips but to me it was totally worth it.

i can see myself using this book as one of my many resources for service and I recommend it to anyone looking for an addition to their library.

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