In my many years practicing as a Top/Dominant/Master in the BDSM circles, I have seen this question asked over and over. I’ve even asked that question myself when I was younger, though I think I said standards instead of certifications. Most recently, it was brought to my attention on FetLife, in the Novices and Newbies group. AsContinue reading “Should There Be Certification for Practicing BDSM?”
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Consent and BDSM
It has been brought to my attention that our community is having a discussion about consent. That is a good thing. I think that consent is one of the Foundations of BDSM. A core principal, along with Honesty and Trust. But what is it and how do we achieve consent in our relationships? What is theContinue reading “Consent and BDSM”
To Slaves: Yes you Have a Choice
Ok. I saw something on FetLife today that really annoyed me. A slave essentially said the following: It isn’t my choice to do this, my Master made me do this. Bull-fucking-shit. Yes slaves, unless you are brain-damaged or brainwashed, it is your choice. It may not be your preference but you choose every day toContinue reading “To Slaves: Yes you Have a Choice”
Active Listening, Positive Reinforcement, Perception, and Growth
I know, that’s a lot for a title….LOL But it is all things I want to talk about. Hopefully my thoughts are clear, if not, ask. I will include no disclaimers about my words… Several thoughts on this subject have been popping around in my head. I found this really good article on “Active Listening”Continue reading “Active Listening, Positive Reinforcement, Perception, and Growth”
Being a Real Master Is Hard Work
I knew this when I started. Being a good master is hard. Really hard. It requires constant attention to your behavior. Requires consistency in your actions. That doesn’t mean you can’t grow. You can change. But you need to allow your slave to adjust. Watch out for love. It will sap your will. It willContinue reading “Being a Real Master Is Hard Work”
50/50, 75/25, 60/40, 100/0….
My post tonight will be a short one. Something I have come to realize in relationships is that when things start to go bad people start to look at how much each has contributed to the relationship. We start to become consumed with the percentages we give in relation to the other party. We startContinue reading “50/50, 75/25, 60/40, 100/0….”
The House of Void 