Another Bondage Tutorial

31 07 2009

You can never learn enough about bondage. Enjoy.

And you know, I always appreciate comments.


BDSM 101: Your First Playparty

29 07 2009

So, in the past I wrote about going to your first Munch or your first Club Event. Now you’re ready for some fun. Lets talk about a real, honest too God play party.
First, what is a play party? A play party is a social gathering of kinksters where bondage and S&M practices happen. Often, you will be invited to one after a a munch or club event. Don’t rush yourself if you don’t feel ready, and don’t let someone there pressure you to go. But, in the end, they are a whole lot of fun. Usually it is held in a private home, but events are also held at hotels and in fetish clubs. (Regular clubs that serve alcohol have issues with our activities and maintaining a license to sell alcohol.)

When you get there, you will be presented with the house rules of the club or home owner (usually, sometimes these rules are assumed among good friends, or given out in advance). You will find that there is a social area, where people can gather and talk amongst themselves. Refreshments, if offered, can be found here. This is a good place to hear about scenes from days past, and perhaps pickup a new technique or two. Be careful though, that what you do doesn’t turn into play, as this is the wrong area for that.

You will also find a few play areas, with equipment set up for your use. You may find St. Andrews crosses (perhaps the most common dungeon furniture), spanking benches or medical/massage tables (for waxing or medical play). You don’t have to play. Just go through the rooms and watch the first time. Voyeurism is encouraged. Just remember to be respectful, stay quiet, and stay out of the swinging arm of the Top (or you could find yourself in the middle of a scene rather non-consensually). If you see something you want to learn about, wait until after the scene (and the aftercare) and ask then.

Well, I hope you find this guide useful for navigating your first play party. Just remember that the first time, it is probably best to just sit back, relax and learn.

What are your play party experiences like? Let me know in the comments.


Book of Days – July 28, 2009

28 07 2009

Feel free to join me and share your experiences in remember your days:

  • Outside my window… or on the train today, a bit earlier than usual, and I saw the sun and a beautiful collage of colors surrounding it 🙂

  • my thoughts…are about intensity and desire and my Master

  • Today’s Quote… “What does that do to you“…Master

  • i am thankful for…this moment, my family, my Master, being able to feel hurt and happiness

  • From my service training… I am going to be serving in high protocol

  • From the kitchen… I am planning on smaller, planned meals

  • i am wearing…a black t-shirt and cut up blue jeans.

  • i am creating… I am creating myself with acceptance and peace

  • my adventures this week… I will be flying to sunny and hella hot NC to be with my hot, hot Master.

  • Becoming well read… I am reading a historical romance series by Diana Gabaldon. The current book in the series is called Dragonfly in Amber..

  • i manifest and co-create… speak good and positive thoughts into existence.  I pray for peace and acceptance and clarity.

  • Todays Melody… I was listening to a fast, thumping house mix…could barely contain my soul.

  • One of my favorite things… is to sit quietly at my Master’s feet.

  • further plans for this week…planning dinner and making a list for shopping

  • Still….life (share a picture you’ve taken OR a picture you found online that speaks to you)




Leatherworking Video

24 07 2009

Something practical tonight.



A Surprise

22 07 2009

I have been hosting gatherings at the House of Void. (Yes, there really is a physical House, dear Virginia.) So far there have been three of them, and they are being very well received by the local community. I have been happy to host them.

I have been fortunate to have NCMaster be able to attend all of them. He is, as I have mentioned in the past, a well respected Elder in the local Lifestyle community. He is big on Leather and Leather traditions. At this event, he spoke about earned leather, and the significance of it.

For those of you unaware of what earned or gifted leather is (and definitions do vary), leather was given in the Leather community of old to recognize accomplishments. A boy would not be entitled to wear leather, until he earned it. Boots, maybe belt next. Pants, vest and hat all had to be earned as well. In our modern community, everyone basically buys our own. There is no stigma at showing up at a fetish event in leather you bought online or in a local store. But earned leather is special.

I have witnessed NCMaster be awarded his lid (leather cap) by a local BDSM group. I have seen him award it to several in the local community. This Friday, I was tremendously surprised in finding that I was the next to be awarded leather. It was simple, but beautiful.



BlackBEAT Atlanta Announces Their First Munch

20 07 2009

My girl is having ‘net problems, so I will fill your evening tonight with this announcement.

Join the Black Beat Atlanta Munch on Saturday, August 29th @ 2pm at the Jocks n Jills Sports Bar at Galleria

Topics for discussion will be: DomCon Atlanta, potential membership drive, planning for BlackBeat 2010 and misc.

We’ll meet in the private skybox under the name: BBAtl Chat Group

The skybox has been set up where you can order food, drinks, or both, or you can chill enjoy the convo and atmosphere. If you don’t eat or drink, plan to bring a tip for using the skybox.

PLEASE REMEMBER! While this is a sports bar and the dress code might be a bit more liberal, this is still a PUBLIC area. PLEASE KEEP YOUR FETISH WEAR TO A MINIMUM!

Also while the name might be Black Beat, we welcome and encourage all ethnicities, sexualities, and kinks.

ALERT!! Its sad to say it, but we will be in the skybox from 2pm-4pm, so we will start on TIME!

Old saying “If you’re 15 min early, your’re on time, if you’re on time, your’re late.”

I will be there.  Will you?


5 Questions with NCMaster

17 07 2009

NCMaster is a good friend of mine, and a local leather leader who has received some small renown.  So it was natural that I would ask to interview him.  Hope you like it.

5 Questions

1) Who is NCMaster?

NCMaster is a Leather Lifestyle Dominant that has been in the lifestyle for over 20 years. I have been married to My wife/slave for about 6 years now. We are very active in the local and regional Leather Community. I have served on the Board of Directors for Capex for 3 terms. My slave and I have hosted a D/s Relationship SIG in our home for the last 4 1/2 years. We have an extended Leather Family that has become very close and we spend a lot of time with our family.

2) How did you get into the Scene/Lifestyle?

Like many, I can remember having kinky thoughts and ideas even as a child. During My first marriage which was vanilla, I tried to involve my wife in some of the things I wanted to do, but it just wasn’t going to happen. After the divorce, I began to explore and discovered that other people shared My interests. This was before the Internet and I didn’t realize that there were groups that were into these things. Soon I discovered the Leather community and found a home. I began learning as much as I could from both dominants and submissives, experimenting with everything I learned.

3) What is our claim to fame in the scene? i.e What are you know for?

I think I am known as a community leader and a knowledgeable Elder. I have done presentations on many aspects of the lifestyle across the southeast for local, regional and national organizations.

4) What should the next Generation know?

The next generation should become knowledgeable in the traditions of our heritage and the sacrifices of those that lead the way. The next generation should also learn of the respect and dedication for the Leather Lifestyle that defines us. The next generation should also learn to be adventurous and pave their own path in some ways. Take the lessons from the past and define them in new ways.

5) What is important?

Personal Integrity. Loyalty. Honor, and self Respect.


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