I Too Are An Internets Dominate

2 12 2009

Ok, this shouldn’t take too long.  Pay attention. There will be a quiz at the end.

I see a fairly common statement made by D-types out on the internets, and I feel compelled to say something. If you have made this mistake, please take note of what I am about to tell you and correct yourself in the future.  It is important.  And this has to be stopped before someone gets hurt. Probably you if you do this.

I see people saying the following all across the internets:

I am a dominate with years of experience.

No. Your You’re not.  If you had years of experience, you would know that what you are is a Dominant. Not dominate. Dominate is what you do, Dominant is what you are.

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Knife Play Basics

19 08 2009

I wanted to take a few minutes of your time today and teach you a bit about knife play. I want to explain what knife play is and isn’t, share with you some basic knife play techniques for beginners, and point to a great knife vendor for those that are a bit more advanced and looking for a good knife or 12.

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BDSM 101: Your First Playparty

29 07 2009

So, in the past I wrote about going to your first Munch or your first Club Event. Now you’re ready for some fun. Lets talk about a real, honest too God play party.
First, what is a play party? A play party is a social gathering of kinksters where bondage and S&M practices happen. Often, you will be invited to one after a a munch or club event. Don’t rush yourself if you don’t feel ready, and don’t let someone there pressure you to go. But, in the end, they are a whole lot of fun. Usually it is held in a private home, but events are also held at hotels and in fetish clubs. (Regular clubs that serve alcohol have issues with our activities and maintaining a license to sell alcohol.)

When you get there, you will be presented with the house rules of the club or home owner (usually, sometimes these rules are assumed among good friends, or given out in advance). You will find that there is a social area, where people can gather and talk amongst themselves. Refreshments, if offered, can be found here. This is a good place to hear about scenes from days past, and perhaps pickup a new technique or two. Be careful though, that what you do doesn’t turn into play, as this is the wrong area for that.

You will also find a few play areas, with equipment set up for your use. You may find St. Andrews crosses (perhaps the most common dungeon furniture), spanking benches or medical/massage tables (for waxing or medical play). You don’t have to play. Just go through the rooms and watch the first time. Voyeurism is encouraged. Just remember to be respectful, stay quiet, and stay out of the swinging arm of the Top (or you could find yourself in the middle of a scene rather non-consensually). If you see something you want to learn about, wait until after the scene (and the aftercare) and ask then.

Well, I hope you find this guide useful for navigating your first play party. Just remember that the first time, it is probably best to just sit back, relax and learn.

What are your play party experiences like? Let me know in the comments.

MV









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