I have been asked to post something about the protocols that I have developed for esclave. I have tried to keep certain things in mind when developing them, irregardless of the origin of the protocol.
- The protocol should be simple: Easily explained with normal words and no jargon.
- The protocol should be practical: It should perform some purpose, even if that purpose is to just be pretty.
- The protocol should be accomplishable: It should be relatively untaxing on my slave, and within her range of motion and physical limitations.
I have broken the protocols into a more formal High Protocol, and a family and public friendly Low Protocol
- To the left and two steps behind when walking
- No use of furniture in Sir’s home unless specifically directed
- Kneel and ask permission before leaving (i.e. Sir…may I please be excused)
- When Sir is sitting i am to be sitting or kneeling lower than he (exception will be if i am otherwise doing something for Sir)
- Can sit on furniture when alone with Sir, with vanilla people and with my family
- To the left and slightly behind Sir when walking, standing or sitting, when possible.
- Ask permission before leaving a room or phone conversation with Sir
esclave is responsible for maintaining the list of rules, and updating as new ones are derived.
Please tell me what you think of these protocols, and let me know about the protocols that you use in your replationships.
Others in this series: Protocols pt 1, Protocols pt 2
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IT always amuses me how simple these protocols can be, yet the profound impact they can have on a slave.
When I asked you about them I was still owned, now I am in tourmoil. lol But they are…common sense, to a point lol…
Thank you so much for sharing them.
I am glad you liked my post. I am sorry that things did not work out between you and your former owner. Over the years, I have seen many Lifestyle relationships end before the people in them were ready.
I think that BDSM leads to some very passionate relationships. If we are not very careful and honest with ourselves and our partners then the end comes sooner than it should have.
Good luck, and I hope you come back and comment on other things.
My husband is trying again. I don’t know how much more of this I can take, But I guess it’s one last go.
Any advice? I really respect some of your views. As far as my blog goes, your only getting one side of the conversation, you know.
In the begining there was so much passion, and I want that back, so bad…
My advice is this. Push him to be the best dom he can be. Don’t let him slack off. Don’t try to get away with things. Make sure he knows of your infractions and place the ball in his court. (Don’t screw up on purpose of course, but make sure that if there is something wrong, any inaction on his part is on purpose). I don’t think any dom is perfect, we all slack off from time to time. But we must rise to the challenges presented to be a dominant.
Reminds me a story that slave marsha and Master Jim told. It got so bad that one day she had to beat him on the chest and say “I need you here with me.” That woke him up, and eventually they became title holders.
Hope that adds some perspective.
Thank you so much…so far, it’s going okay.
just found your blog and this topic and would like to present a few of our protocols for your consideration.
> To the right and 1 step behind when walking with me. This keeps her in sight and easier to speak with.
> Drinks are “presented” to me. Left hand under the base, right hand around the cup/glass, held to the breast for three beats of her heart, then a kiss to the rim, head bowed, arms extended and presented with “In service, Master”. As I take the drink, I kiss her right hand and tell her thank you. I always kiss the hand that serves me.
< If she needs to speak with me, she will present herself to me and wait to be recognized. “May I speak with you, Sir?” The answer is almost always “Yes.”, afterwards she says “Thank you, Sir” takes two small steps back (she is never to turn her back to me) turns and leaves.
< We both smoke so she has protocols for that. She is allowed three cigarettes firt thing in the morning. It wouldn’t be fair to make her think (or wait) before she’s had a cup of coffee 🙂 After that she is to ask whenever she is in my presence.
< And we have silent hand signals for stay/stand, sit/down, and attend that can be used in vanilla as well as lifestyle surroundings with noone the wiser.
I have enjoyed reading your bog, so far, and have added you to my favorites. I hope to be welcomed back in the future.
I wish you well,
P.S. I hope all is well with you too jane
I appreciate your kind words. I appreciate the functionality of your protocols, and am glad that they work fo ryou.