Foundations in Mastery by Catherine Gross

30 03 2009

Ok, I am fresh back from my weekend seminar with Catherine Gross (check out last week’s post for some info on it). I have to say that it was one of the most unique experiences I have had while I have been in the Lifestyle. This was tremendous opportunity to be at the debut of a her latest Lifestyle development class.

I suppose that right now it is best to say a little about Catherine so you can understand why I would spend my weekend on an untested class. First, I should say that the class was the only thing that was untested. Catherine has tested the theory that she discussed by living it for most of her adult life. She is a PCC lifecoach (on of only 2000 in the country). She has been a BDSM educator for longer than I have been in the lifestyle. She co-produces the South-East Leatherfest. And frankly, she runs one hell of a House.

The weekend started out with a great deal of self evaluation, and self analysis. She taught that you need a solid, self-aware foundation before you can begin to develop your skills as a top. I spent a lot of time thinking about answers. There were piles and piles of forms. Each lesson built on the others (for a complete lesson plan look here). That basically made up the first two days.

The third day was different. We spent time reviewing our own creations. We dissected our protocols, analyzing them according to a system that she showed us. This made each and every one of the 30 tops in the room think about what we were doing and why we were doing it. I can frankly say that I walked away with a much larger toolbox that what I came in with.

Now, I could give you the details about the seminar. But I am not. There are two more events on the schedule. One in Georgia, one in Arizona. If you are serious about improving your skills as a top, and I don’t mean better beating, but becoming a better person, then you really should go to this class. Frankly I do not know of anything else like it. PERIOD.

Lady Catherine, if you do happen to read this, Thank you.



Protocols Pt. 3

26 06 2008

I have been asked to post something about the protocols that I have developed for esclave. I have tried to keep certain things in mind when developing them, irregardless of the origin of the protocol.

  1. The protocol should be simple: Easily explained with normal words and no jargon.
  2. The protocol should be practical: It should perform some purpose, even if that purpose is to just be pretty.
  3. The protocol should be accomplishable: It should be relatively untaxing on my slave, and within her range of motion and physical limitations.

I have broken the protocols into a more formal High Protocol, and a family and public friendly Low Protocol

High Protocol

  • To the left and two steps behind when walking
  • No use of furniture in Sir’s home unless specifically directed
  • Kneel and ask permission before leaving (i.e. Sir…may I please be excused)
  • When Sir is sitting i am to be sitting or kneeling lower than he (exception will be if i am otherwise doing something for Sir)

Low Protocol

  • Can sit on furniture when alone with Sir, with vanilla people and with my family
  • To the left and slightly behind Sir when walking, standing or sitting, when possible.
  • Ask permission before leaving a room or phone conversation with Sir

esclave is responsible for maintaining the list of rules, and updating as new ones are derived.

Please tell me what you think of these protocols, and let me know about the protocols that you use in your replationships.


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Interesting Slave Training Idea

18 05 2008

Was reading a blog and I saw an idea for training slaves in proper posture. Thing provoke any ideas from you guys?

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