Service Book of Days 1/23/12

23 01 2012

Outside my window… (weather, what do you hear, what do you see?)is a cold, windy, dreary day…kinda like my mood.  This weekend was rough.  Hopefully it’s a building block

my thoughts…are on how to make a relationship continue to work.

Today’s Quote:   

With every experience, you alone are painting your own canvas, thought by thought, choice by choice.
Oprah Winfrey, O Magazine US actress & television talk show host (1954 – )

i am thankful for…

i am wearing…a pink tanktop and pink and red pajama bottoms

my adventures this week…(where are you going this week?)  nothing happening this weekend.  Hanging home.

i manifest and co-create…(what are your hopes, dreams, and prayers this week) my reality with each choice I make.

Today’s Melody…(what music are you listening to? even if it’s just the sound of a bird…) G-Series Fit mix treadmill workout number 3…lol

 

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Want to start something different.  Here are the direct

ions:

Once a week on Monday you will respond to the above prompts.. more is better. Post your response on your blog or website.

Mention the blog (service savoir faire) and offer a link back to the main page of the blog. This way others can participate in the project as well!  www.servicesavoirfaire.blogspot.com

So now that you know how, please feel free to join me. :)


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FetLife and Chat: Feeling Betrayed

19 01 2012

So ever since James announced chat coming to FetLife I’ve felt betrayed. I recall vividly John Baku saying that Chat would not come to FetLife. That there would never be a way to show who is online. This was a different experience than other sites. A fun place to get your kink on. A place to connect with new people.

Now apparently they are rolling out a feature that does both. And it is on by default. I felt betrayed. I got that feeling you get when a company does something sleazy. Let’s call it that “FaceBook Feeling” because that’s how that site makes me fee with the way they change settings and eliminate privacy without much complaint. And I feel even less motivated to donate to support the site. (Actually I feel motivated to not donate, so I that I will not get features I neither want nor need.)

I thought about deleting my account. But really, would that matter? Would anybody else even care? Who would even notice?

In my analysis, it seemed that the only person who would suffer is myself. I gain nothing from killing my account. Staying with a site I now consider to be in the same league as FaceBook when it comes to my trust. I’ll still be there when ASL Search comes. I’ll still be there when they sell my info. Why? Because it is a trade off. I get something. I can control most of what FetLife sees about me.

I’ve come to learn companies lie. They do what makes the most money.

And they lie. When it is convenient they change their story. I had hoped that fetlife would be different. Time has shown me that they aren’t really all that different.

So, I will be turning that feature off. Turning off scripting on that site. I will probably not recommend FetLife to anyone in the future, at least until I am convinced John means what he says. Our reputation and credibility is important. More so in this shadowy world of kink we live in. I feel most disappointed because I have been there from the warily days, my blog started within a month of FetLife’s start. It felt like family.

And now, it feels more like FaceBook.

If you have any thoughts or feelings about this, or FetLife in general please feel free to post in the comments. ( And if you feel like I am full of it, let me know that too. )


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Non-Resolutions

9 01 2012

Hey Everyone,

 

It’s been a while since I wrote on here.  Hope the start to everyone’s new year was awesome.

So this is the time when people make resolutions.  Resolutions to lose weight, be kinder, love more, or let go of things.

I choose to not make resolutions as I am a big time procrastinator and the one thing that Master taught me was to always do things now.

Master sent me this note he saw on this blog:  http://blog.chasejarvis.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/thenextgreatidea.png

What are your “do it now” objectives for the new year?

Mine are to continue to serve better in terms of listening, and viewing my life through “now” eyes.

 


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Service Book of Days 12/14/11

14 12 2011

Outside my window… (weather, what do you hear, what do you see?)is the sound of small animals scurrying around.  I love sitting in front of the window during the day and seeing the birds in the front yard :)

my thoughts…are on making concrete changes

Today’s Quote:   

It’s really easy to complain. If you’re not careful, then you end up complaining about your whole life. Concentrating on the good things is really good. Catch people doing good.
Lisa Williams, Bloggers In Love, SXSW 2006

i am thankful for…heat…lol

From my service training…(any skills, training etc; notes you want to share this week) juicing and baking

i am wearing…a blankie

my adventures this week…(where are you going this week?)  nothing going on this weekend.  Christmas is almost here and we don’t even have a tree.

Becoming well read…(What are you reading this week?) listening to an audio book on self exploration for women.  ”Women who run with wolves” by Clarissa Estes.  I have to say listening to this book has made me feel very energetic and light and filled with visions of dancing in the wild underneath the night sky until the morning sun.

i manifest and co-create…(what are your hopes, dreams, and prayers this week)

Today’s Melody…(what music are you listening to? even if it’s just the sound of a bird…)  That “Free Credit Report.com” song where the parent’s give the kid a credit card to start school.  I dislike this commercial very much…lol  The song ends by saying “hard times for Daddy and Mom” based on what the kids has done.  My thoughts are hard times for the kid to help repay what she spent by living at home and getting a job…lol

Still….life(share a picture you’ve taken OR a picture you found online that speaks to you)  Photo used with permission from: Me :)

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Want to start something different.  Here are the direct

ions:

Once a week on Monday you will respond to the above prompts.. more is better. Post your response on your blog or website.

Mention the blog (service savoir faire) and offer a link back to the main page of the blog. This way others can participate in the project as well!  www.servicesavoirfaire.blogspot.com

So now that you know how, please feel free to join me. :)


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Service Book of Days 12/6/11

6 12 2011

Outside my window… (weather, what do you hear, what do you see?) is a beautiful fall day.  The leaves have fallen and all of the bunnies are finding other spaces to hide in.  I love the colors and festiveness of this season.

my thoughts…are fluffy and warm and all calm and determined.

Today’s Quote:   

With every experience, you alone are painting your own canvas, thought by thought, choice by choice.
Oprah Winfrey, O Magazine US actress & television talk show host (1954 – )

i am thankful for…fresh fruits and vegetables.  I am starting this cleanse program for not only my body but those cobwebs and hang ups in my mind.

From my service training…(any skills, training etc; notes you want to share this week) learning to appreciate a clean cat box…sigh

i am wearing…Master’s bathrobe :)

my adventures this week…(where are you going this week?)  hmmm i think this weekend will be filled with munches and hanging with kinky friends.

Becoming well read…(What are you reading this week?) listening to an audio book on self exploration for women.  ”Women who run with wolves” by Clarissa Estes

i manifest and co-create…(what are your hopes, dreams, and prayers this week) silent negative inner voices

Today’s Melody…(what music are you listening to? even if it’s just the sound of a bird…)

Still….life(share a picture you’ve taken OR a picture you found online that speaks to you)  Photo used with permission from:

http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.5/

branches and sky

 

http://www.everystockphoto.com/photo.php?imageId=221881&searchId=45b8db8c564e04c80f032c96ba1d920d&npos=17

 

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Want to start something different.  Here are the direct

ions:

Once a week on Monday you will respond to the above prompts.. more is better. Post your response on your blog or website.

Mention the blog (service savoir faire) and offer a link back to the main page of the blog. This way others can participate in the project as well!  www.servicesavoirfaire.blogspot.com

So now that you know how, please feel free to join me. :)


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Let’s Talk About Sex (and BDSM)

3 12 2011

I’m seeing something today that I find interesting. More and more I am seeing new people into the scene looking for sex. Pain and Sex. Control and Sex. Spankings and Sex. Bondage and Sex. Very different from the world I came of age in.

When I started out, I was directed to improve myself. Learn control. Learn how to manipulate the flash of my partner. Bring agony and ecstasy to my partner. Sex would come to eventually, with the right person.And it would be great. Don’t limit your options by only playing with those you would fuck. Instead sample a wide variety. Try different skills. Learn. Grow. Be a better Dominant for your submissive, but play with those that were available so you can be better.

I think it is what made me a good Master for my esclave. We have sex, but our relationship is not based on sex. Sex is good, but Control is better. She knows her place. I know mine. We are both happier this way. And sex is better this way.

But there were a whole lot of people before her that I played with that allowed me to be who I am with her.And I appreciate them for the opportunity for growth they allowed me.

Some couldn’t imagine doing what they do without a sexual relationship. I can respect this, but I think they are missing out on a while lot Opportunities to learn and grow. How can you know if your partner will like something if you don’t take the time to become good at it? The first time may be so bad they never want to do it again, while a more experienced player can tell you what you are doing well.

Look at the acronym BDSM. Originally this meant Bondage and Discipline plus Sadism and Masochism. Later, Domination and Submission was added to round out the group. Bondage is tying someone up.Discipline means control and pain. Sadism is about inflicting pain, Masochism means receiving pain. Domination and Submission are about taking and giving up control.

Where is the Sex in that list? It isn’t there. And I think there is a reason for that.

Let me know what you think, in the comments.

MV


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