How not to negotiate: I will not be in a long distance relationship

I am going to attempt to write this and hopefully it won’t come across as sounding full of regret. When I met Master I was in a relationship with someone who was on the other side of US in the Pacific Northwest.  This relationship was really hard as I am the type of person whoContinue reading “How not to negotiate: I will not be in a long distance relationship”

How Not to Negotiate: Topping from the Bottom

Topping from the Bottom Girl, what you are doing is “topping from the bottom”.     I have no desire to be in control of this relationship so why would Sir say that I am topping from the bottom.   What exactly does it mean to Top from the bottom? I saw this definition from the Society ofContinue reading “How Not to Negotiate: Topping from the Bottom”

How not to negotiate: Sucks to be you

I remember early on in our relationship Master’s response to my saying something that I did not want to do was “well sucks to be you”.  I would laugh because in my mind it was a joke.  Of course he would take into account everything and pay attention to my feelings. As time went onContinue reading “How not to negotiate: Sucks to be you”

How Not to Negotiate: How do I find the One for me?

I thought this post would be a deviation from the normal tone of my “How Not to Negotiate” posts but I think it fits.  So often many come in to this lifestyle wondering how to find the One for them or asking what qualifications a Dominant would need to have for them.   So manyContinue reading “How Not to Negotiate: How do I find the One for me?”

How Not to Negotiate – “I trust you Completely”

This is something that I have said to Master often and I have heard people say.  I think we say it but don’t truly mean.  So I am going to explore the issue of trusting really in someone. One of the things that I love about Sir is his impulsiveness.  There have been several timesContinue reading “How Not to Negotiate – “I trust you Completely””

How Not to Negotiate – “I desire to be your slave”

So when I started in this lifestyle I knew nothing about labels all I knew was that I desired to be with someone that I can give over everything too.  I often say that I have no middle ground it is either all or nothing with me.  So, hey, I found these people with menContinue reading “How Not to Negotiate – “I desire to be your slave””