BDSM in the News

I ran across a couple of stories while surfing, and I thought I would share.  The first is the tale of a man who died while in bondage.

Photos of the scene at an apartment in Battersea, South West London, shows a bedroom converted into a sadomasochistic dungeon, unnamed sources told The Sun newspaper.
Kevin Greening
Mr Greening’s agent first said he died ‘peacefully in his sleep’

The pictures, which will be presented to an inquest into Mr Greening’s death later this year, depict a leather harness, knee-high boots and a scaffolding structure containing meat-hooks and chains.

Paramedics reportedly found the body of the 44-year-old DJ, who was openly gay, hanging upside down in a bondage harness. The room also contained roles of black industrial tape, boxing gloves and nipple clamps, the sources were quoted as saying.

Police are investigating the circumstances of the presenter’s death, thought to be from a heart attack, after tests showed he may have taken various drugs, including cocaine and ecstasy.

I think the morale is, don’t do drugs and play, and don’t play alone, or with people who will abandon you when you are in distress.  It is sad when this happens to one of us in the community.

 

On a different and lighter note, here is a story sparked from an earlier story, about a man who enjoys BDSM as a change of pace in sex. It seems pretty fair to us Lifestylers, although it does focus on a man who pays to play and not someone in a committed relationship.

e, a high-powered Upper West Side tech consultant likes nothing better than to light some candles, turn down the lights – and get whipped.

“It’s all about giving up everything, a total power exchange where you don’t have to worry about anything,” said the 36-year-old married dad of two.

“It’s a release of any obligations I’ve got.”

Rhetorical No?

I was going to post about how sometimes when Sir asks me a question i answer no. i call these my rhetorical no’s. they are not real “no’s” to what he asks of me because he knows that i will do what he asks anyway. i think though it is not so much that my no’s are rhetorical but that his questions are rhetorical…LOL

According to Wikipedia (i love this site by the way, you can find an answer to any question or query)…A rhetorical question is a figure of speech in the form of a question posed for rhetorical effect rather than to receive an answer.[1] Rhetorical questions encourage the listener to reflect on what the implied answer to the question must be.

When Sir asks me if i want to try a particular play (knife, needle) my response is no. He laughs and then says do you really mean no. I really don’t mean no. My no’s have nothing to do with my hard limits. My hard limits are his hard limits so I know that will never be an issue for us. As an aside i think it is essential that time is taken to get to really know the one that you are thinking about being submissive or slave to. I think everything needs to be talked about and that you leave nothing to chance. A persons basic personality does not change once a relationship is solidified. Compatibility is key. Anyway, as I was saying when i say no to Sir i don’t mean no i mean that i am afraid to try it. He understands this and adjusts accordingly. I trust Sir to not harm me, hurting me is a different story…LOL.

Ms. Jackson if you’re nasty

Not sure if this will work but i was looking for something to post here that would be BDSM related and came across a new video by Janet Jackson. Her videos always seem to have a touch of the lifestyle in them.

BlackBEAT ’08

BlackBEAT

BlackBEAT

This has to be my favorite event. Every year, we gather and focus on having a good time and learning about BDSM in a very inspiring event. I believe it even won the best small event at Pantheon in 2006. From their website:

Established in 2003, Black BEAT Inc. is an independent, social organization founded by African American members of the D/s, BDSM and Leather community nationwide. Our organization strives to cultivate safe, sane, consenting adults (21 years and older) with alternative lifestyle and sexuality interests via culture, education, development, support, and event planning.
Each year Black BEAT offers award acknowledgement to those loyal and progressive in their BDSM and Leather lifestyle contributions. Our family of patrons realize that an African American presence in kink has to be self supporting, thus, have collectively built the foundation upon which we proudly stand. Acknowledgement of African American Leadership in BDSM is important to facilitate strength to others that care to lead in the effort to maximize a greater BDSM community. We desire to continue to build a healthy understanding of the BDSM lifestyle that will add positive validation within our interpersonal actions and diverse relationships.
Collective organizational efforts via sexual diversity lectures, workshops and demonstrations are our focus. We strive to enhance social benefits for African Americans and all kink aware sexual minorities, creating a welcome atmosphere for all who share interest in our expansion, our conferences, or munch groups.
Black BEAT welcomes and encourages all races, ethnicity’s, and sexual preferences to join us for our unique conference experience.

I love it, I enjoy being there every year (I have only missed one year, and last year I met my girl). Last year I had the honor of being in charge of security, and this year I was privileged to be asked to do it again. I hope I will see you there.

Something for Valentines Day

I ran across this while surfing the other day. (I am continously amazed what I come across in so called “Vanillia Blogs”.)

Musical Condom

musical condom

United States patent 5163447 is for a Force-Sensitive, Sound-Playing Condom! That’s right, it’s a musical condom! This baby looks and acts like a traditional condom and yet, manages to go a step further by incorporating “a chip-controlled piezoelectric sound transducer (18) which plays a melody or voiced message when during intercourse the contacts of the sound-playing unit are closed and the transducer is activated” by forceful movements. Just think of all the fun you’ll have – besides the sex of course.

And if that isnt your style try having anonymous sex on the internet:

A woman in Germany who became pregnant after an online sex auction has won a court battle to force the Web site that hosted the sale to reveal the names of the winners, so she can find out who’s the father.

Six different men won Internet auctions to have sex with the woman in April and May last year. They were only known to her by their online names, a spokesman for a court in the southwestern city of Stuttgart said Wednesday.

Geez, doesn’t anyone have sense anymore? It is a good fantasy, but when reality kicks in…