Service Book of Days 12/14/11

Outside my window… (weather, what do you hear, what do you see?)is the sound of small animals scurrying around.  I love sitting in front of the window during the day and seeing the birds in the front yard 🙂

my thoughts…are on making concrete changes

Today’s Quote:   

It’s really easy to complain. If you’re not careful, then you end up complaining about your whole life. Concentrating on the good things is really good. Catch people doing good.
Lisa Williams, Bloggers In Love, SXSW 2006

i am thankful for…heat…lol

From my service training…(any skills, training etc; notes you want to share this week) juicing and baking

i am wearing…a blankie

my adventures this week…(where are you going this week?)  nothing going on this weekend.  Christmas is almost here and we don’t even have a tree.

Becoming well read…(What are you reading this week?) listening to an audio book on self exploration for women.  “Women who run with wolves” by Clarissa Estes.  I have to say listening to this book has made me feel very energetic and light and filled with visions of dancing in the wild underneath the night sky until the morning sun.

i manifest and co-create…(what are your hopes, dreams, and prayers this week)

Today’s Melody…(what music are you listening to? even if it’s just the sound of a bird…)  That “Free Credit Report.com” song where the parent’s give the kid a credit card to start school.  I dislike this commercial very much…lol  The song ends by saying “hard times for Daddy and Mom” based on what the kids has done.  My thoughts are hard times for the kid to help repay what she spent by living at home and getting a job…lol

Still….life(share a picture you’ve taken OR a picture you found online that speaks to you)  Photo used with permission from: Me 🙂

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Service Book of Days 12/6/11

Outside my window… (weather, what do you hear, what do you see?) is a beautiful fall day.  The leaves have fallen and all of the bunnies are finding other spaces to hide in.  I love the colors and festiveness of this season.

my thoughts…are fluffy and warm and all calm and determined.

Today’s Quote:   

With every experience, you alone are painting your own canvas, thought by thought, choice by choice.
Oprah Winfrey, O Magazine US actress & television talk show host (1954 – )

i am thankful for…fresh fruits and vegetables.  I am starting this cleanse program for not only my body but those cobwebs and hang ups in my mind.

From my service training…(any skills, training etc; notes you want to share this week) learning to appreciate a clean cat box…sigh

i am wearing…Master’s bathrobe 🙂

my adventures this week…(where are you going this week?)  hmmm i think this weekend will be filled with munches and hanging with kinky friends.

Becoming well read…(What are you reading this week?) listening to an audio book on self exploration for women.  “Women who run with wolves” by Clarissa Estes

i manifest and co-create…(what are your hopes, dreams, and prayers this week) silent negative inner voices

Today’s Melody…(what music are you listening to? even if it’s just the sound of a bird…)

Still….life(share a picture you’ve taken OR a picture you found online that speaks to you)  Photo used with permission from:

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branches and sky

 

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Let’s Talk About Sex (and BDSM)

I’m seeing something today that I find interesting. More and more I am seeing new people into the scene looking for sex. Pain and Sex. Control and Sex. Spankings and Sex. Bondage and Sex. Very different from the world I came of age in.

When I started out, I was directed to improve myself. Learn control. Learn how to manipulate the flash of my partner. Bring agony and ecstasy to my partner. Sex would come to eventually, with the right person.And it would be great. Don’t limit your options by only playing with those you would fuck. Instead sample a wide variety. Try different skills. Learn. Grow. Be a better Dominant for your submissive, but play with those that were available so you can be better.

I think it is what made me a good Master for my esclave. We have sex, but our relationship is not based on sex. Sex is good, but Control is better. She knows her place. I know mine. We are both happier this way. And sex is better this way.

But there were a whole lot of people before her that I played with that allowed me to be who I am with her.And I appreciate them for the opportunity for growth they allowed me.

Some couldn’t imagine doing what they do without a sexual relationship. I can respect this, but I think they are missing out on a while lot Opportunities to learn and grow. How can you know if your partner will like something if you don’t take the time to become good at it? The first time may be so bad they never want to do it again, while a more experienced player can tell you what you are doing well.

Look at the acronym BDSM. Originally this meant Bondage and Discipline plus Sadism and Masochism. Later, Domination and Submission was added to round out the group. Bondage is tying someone up.Discipline means control and pain. Sadism is about inflicting pain, Masochism means receiving pain. Domination and Submission are about taking and giving up control.

Where is the Sex in that list? It isn’t there. And I think there is a reason for that.

Let me know what you think, in the comments.

MV

Service Book of Days 11/28/11

Outside my window… (weather, what do you hear, what do you see?) is a nice rainy fall night.  🙂

my thoughts… are on enjoying my one day at a time

Today’s Quote:   Real glory springs from the silent conquest of ourselves.    Joseph P. Thompson

i am thankful for…snuggly nights with Master.

From my service training…(any skills, training etc; notes you want to share this week) learning to not overcook meat.  I do get it right but every now and then that one time the meat is like drinking a cup of sand

i am wearing…a black top and black pants

my adventures this week…(where are you going this week?)  No adventures this weekend.

Becoming well read…(What are you reading this week?) listening to an audio book on self exploration for women.  “Women who run with wolves” by Clarissa Estes

i manifest and co-create…(what are your hopes, dreams, and prayers this week) reality with patience.

Today’s Melody…(what music are you listening to? even if it’s just the sound of a bird…)  No songs today just quiet as my head is a bit on the achy side

Still….life(share a picture you’ve taken OR a picture you found online that speaks to you)  Photo used with permission from:

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Adjustments

So these last few months Master and I have both spoken of the adjustments we have had to make in being together.

The issues we had in relating to each other were put on the back burner due to our distance. It was realized that our communication skills were really lacking.

Truthfully, my habit of being extremely passive aggressive when I got upset instead of talking about what was bothering me became a downer in the house and made even being around each other feel like a chore for me. He would ask “what’s wrong” my passive aggressive response “nothing”…So there you see issues of me not being open and honest and trusting.

Other issues (His sickness, my kids, stress of moving) didn’t help our situation one bit.

One night when we were out together, I finally could not hold it in any longer and broke or more like cried my eyes out. I still could not say what was bothering me as I let stuff build up too much. When I was finally able to speak days later I mentioned some of the items above that were bothering me. But as I finally began to open up I realized what i was missing the most and what was the real issue for me was our lack of intimacy.

You see with us being apart we made time to just talk to each other. One of the things we would do before going to sleep every night was to talk. Talk about our day, what was going on, politics, kids, make jokes, whatever. We would share space with each other. Just us space. This was better than sex space, this was us connecting together, relaxing with each other, mentally and emotionally reconnecting. This for me was so freaking important more than I realized.

Formulate and stamp indelibly on your mind a mental picture of yourself as succeeding. Hold this picture tenaciously. Never permit it to fade. Your mind will seek to develop the picture…Do not build up obstacles in your imagination.
Norman Vincent Peale (1898 – 1993)

Basically, I lost my happy picture. With me “doing” and “caring’ and “making sure” for everyone else, i lost my happy picture and my happy place. I saw everything that was not right and developed unhappiness and my outlook was bleak. I was secretly wishing that my house wouldn’t sell so that I could have a place to go back to you when (not if) this didn’t work out.

I am so extremely grateful to Master. He listened to me, acknowledged that stuff was screwy and had me kiss his feet.

Resolve to be thyself: and know, that he who finds himself, loses his misery.
Matthew Arnold (1822 – 1888)

Yeah, myself is as His slave. That’s who I am. I needed to remember why I chose to be His slave. I was not relying on my foundation which was Him. I guess Him being sick shook me more than I thought. My Superman was not so impervious after all. Instead of acknowledging that bit as well I did what I was taught to do, fell back on to my years of being a single mom and teachings of the woman always taking control and put myself in charge, lost my foundation, and lost my happiness.

Master said to me last night “we are happier now than we have been”. I agree with this. We are happy. We connect, we talk, we apologize, we are back on track.

My hand in His for ever and always.

 

MV’s esclave

A Few Thoughts

It has been an interesting couple of months. My slave moved in, I’ve been sick. My current job was ending. Time passed.

I got better. More or less. At least as healthy as I was before.

My slave is here. There are adjustments I have had to make. Adjustments she has had to make. There are others we have to keep in mind (her kids). I think the hardest part is that we were used to being on our own.

But, we are making it. One day at a time.

It is a journey. My hand in hers. A process.

One that has to succeed.