Category Archives: BDSM

Consent and BDSM

It has been brought to my attention that our community is having a discussion about consent. That is a good thing.  I think that consent is one of the Foundations of BDSM. A core principal, along with Honesty and Trust. But what is it and how do we achieve consent in our relationships? What is theContinue reading “Consent and BDSM”

Post for Monday

Nothing new with me at the moment. Our weekend was good. We saw Batman.  I would recommend it to anyone.  Great wrap up to a trilogy Sad start to the week with the stuff going on in Colorado.   As President Obama said…life is precious and each moment we have with each other is important.   WasteContinue reading “Post for Monday”

To Slaves: Yes you Have a Choice

Ok. I saw something on FetLife today that really annoyed me. A slave essentially said the following: It isn’t my choice to do this, my Master made me do this. Bull-fucking-shit. Yes slaves, unless you are brain-damaged or brainwashed, it is your choice. It may not be your preference but you choose every day toContinue reading “To Slaves: Yes you Have a Choice”

Active Listening, Positive Reinforcement, Perception, and Growth

I know, that’s a lot for a title….LOL  But it is all things I want to talk about.  Hopefully my thoughts are clear, if not, ask. I will include no disclaimers about my words… Several thoughts on this subject have been popping around in my head. I found this really good article on “Active Listening”Continue reading “Active Listening, Positive Reinforcement, Perception, and Growth”

Reflections on what home feels like

I was recently interviewed for an article concerning the first conference I have ever went to…BlackBEAT. I read the article and wasn’t really feeling the slant the article took and it didn’t actually vibe with me.  For some reason I kept wishing that the article was focussed more on expanding the classes, having more extras…fun,Continue reading “Reflections on what home feels like”