“If M/s is a power exchange, an exchange being “the act of giving or taking one thing in return for another” What power did any of the master’s transfer to their slaves?
If the answer is none- then there is no exchange of power.
If there was a transfer of power, a negotiated act, we no longer have m/s we have d/s.”
I have been thinking about the above question for a while now.
The Master is giving his power (control, decision making, etc.) to the slave in exchange for her power (control, decision making, etc).
It’s really not complicated.
For me the power is me giving up my power to make certain decisions, do certain acts, and to become a certain way at his directive.
This is in exchange for his power to me of control, live by his rule, and live a certain way under his direction.
Whether there is more or less negotiation in M/s or D/s is up to the individuals or parties involved. The level of negotiations are irrelevant.
Is slavery a negotiable act? If yes, how does one negotiate surrender?
Since each individual has free will and we are living in a time when real slavery is outlawed and prosecuted in America, the choice we make to be enslaved to someone is therefore something that is negotiated. How those negotiations look and what is negotiated is between the people or parties involved.
With my choice of being consciously enslaved to Master comes the giving up of further negotiations on how to act, speak, and to accept the choices made by the Master for the slave. Again this is individualized for each relationship pertaining to what is and is not negotiated.
Truthfully this lifestyle we live is all about negotiations and what we choose to live under. It boggles my mind sometimes why we choose to complicate it with issues of who is more real than the other. Your kink is not my kink and that is okay and until M/s becomes a legally allowed concept with legislation and everything we need to remember YKINMK and move on.
Negotiation is a dialogue between two or more people or parties, intended to reach an understanding, resolve point of difference, or gain advantage in outcome of dialogue, to produce an agreement upon courses of action, to bargain for individual or collective advantage, to craft outcomes to satisfy various interests of two people/parties involved in negotiation process. Negotiation is a process where each party involved in negotiating tries to gain an advantage for themselves by the end of the process. Negotiation is intended to aim at compromise.
Negotiation occurs in business, non-profit organizations, government branches, legal proceedings, among nations and in personal situations such as marriage, divorce, parenting, and everyday life. The study of the subject is called negotiation theory. Professional negotiators are often specialized, such as union negotiators, leverage buyout negotiators, peace negotiators, hostage negotiators, or may work under other titles, such as diplomats, legislators or brokers.
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I was talking to The Boy the other day about something similar (although we define our relationship as a d/s one). For me, submission is an active verb, a continual action that I perform. It is something I choose to do in every moment. ‘Negotiation’ is a process that never ends. It is the implicit “yes, I choose this” that I am saying by continuing to submit.