A friend was talking to me about reactance. I didn’t quite understand what she was talking to me about and it takes a couple of days for things to sink in fully and become relatable to me. So it has been sitting in the back of my mind for a few days now. According to one of the articles she posted reactance happens when something is perceived as being a threat to the persons freedom. When that happens the person tries by whatever means to restore that freedom. I think of a diet when I try to understand reactance . I diet to help lose weight, health reasons, self control. But it seems that whenever i try to diet it seems that it is a taking away my freedom to have what I want. So what do I do, I eat more. Thereby restoring my freedom to eat whatever I want but defeating my original purposes of going on the diet. He also mentioned that the person experiencing reactance can be irrational. LOL Not everyone experiences reactance. Again reactance happens when ones perceives their “freedom” is threatened. Most peoples buttons don’t get pushed in a way that reactance happens.
I will continue with how this applies to me.
mvs1esclave
The House of Void 
Actually, the definition of reactance is this (per the merriam Webster dictionary):the part of the impedance of an alternating-current circuit that is due to capacitance or inductance or both and that is expressed in ohms
I then needed to look up things within the definition 😛
However, I know exactly what your friend is talking about. Freedom/Autonomy is very very VERY important to me. Very dear, very precious. . and yes, it’s one of those things I’m highly irrational about. Threatening that autonomy is very. . . dangerous- both for whoever is that silly, and possibly myself. Keep that in mind. . . the irrationality of needing to get back something lost that you NEED – that your very EXISTENCE feels based on. . . you’d do anything for that, wouldn’t you?
Loss of freedom. . scares the shit out of me. To be trapped, tied down, held in place – both figuratively and literally. . without my express permission. . . I can fully understand why animals chew their limbs off to escape. . .
Oh, and you don’t need to lose weight, silly girl 🙂 You’re beautiful just as you are. “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ” you’ll change when the time is right 🙂
to Shay…thanks for the compliment 🙂 realizing after the fact that my meaning was not as clear to others as it was to me i went and clarified my point in pt 2. oh and the poem is my favorite and one of the reasons i live this life with Sir 🙂