Category Archives: BDSM

LeatherFET or How to Fail at Organizing a Community Uniting Event.

What I write today is simply an opinion, my opinion.  I derived my opinion from my experiences in the local community.  I welcome all feed back and critiques. LeatherFET was a fascinating event concept. Unite both the leather communities and the fetish communities for a party that would rock Charlotte all weekend.  Have good history and education track. Invite JohnContinue reading “LeatherFET or How to Fail at Organizing a Community Uniting Event.”

How Not to Negotiate: Topping from the Bottom

Topping from the Bottom Girl, what you are doing is “topping from the bottom”.     I have no desire to be in control of this relationship so why would Sir say that I am topping from the bottom.   What exactly does it mean to Top from the bottom? I saw this definition from the Society ofContinue reading “How Not to Negotiate: Topping from the Bottom”

How not to negotiate: Sucks to be you

I remember early on in our relationship Master’s response to my saying something that I did not want to do was “well sucks to be you”.  I would laugh because in my mind it was a joke.  Of course he would take into account everything and pay attention to my feelings. As time went onContinue reading “How not to negotiate: Sucks to be you”

FetLife: A New User’s Guide part 1

FetLife really changed the game when it came online back in 2008. FetLife was a different sort of social networking site. Before it existed, the kink community congregated in sites like Alt.com, CollarMe.com and Bondage.com. While they all served their purpose, and had thriving forums, they were first and foremost a meat market. Their focusContinue reading “FetLife: A New User’s Guide part 1”

The Road Map to Leadership

Sometime last year I was reading Seth Godin’s book “Linchpin: Are You Indispensable?” and in it he mentions something he calls the road map to leadership. This is a fantastic book on how to make you indispensable as an employee. But I wanted to focus on something he wrote on leadership. Basically, some people wouldContinue reading “The Road Map to Leadership”

How Not to Negotiate: How do I find the One for me?

I thought this post would be a deviation from the normal tone of my “How Not to Negotiate” posts but I think it fits.  So often many come in to this lifestyle wondering how to find the One for them or asking what qualifications a Dominant would need to have for them.   So manyContinue reading “How Not to Negotiate: How do I find the One for me?”