The House of Void

Outside my window… (weather, what do you hear, what do you see?) is a another beautiful sunny day.  It’s a little crisp out but I love being able to see the sun.

my thoughts…are on ways to be soft.

Today’s Quote:   

Do not weep; do not wax indignant. Understand.

Baruch Spinoza 
Dutch Jewish philosopher (1632 – 1677) 

i am thankful for…being me.  unapologetically me.

i am wearing… Master’s old snuggly bathrobe 🙂

from my service training…I am learning how to be soft for Master in tone, attitude, and appearance

my adventures this week…(where are you going this week?) no adventures this week.  praying that my house will close on Friday.

Still….life(share a picture you’ve taken OR a picture you found online that speaks to you)  Photo used with permission from:

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Want to start something different.  Here are the direct

ions:

Once a week on Monday you will respond to the above prompts.. more is better. Post your response on your blog or website.

Mention the blog (service savoir faire) and offer a link back to the main page of the blog. This way others can participate in the project as well!  www.servicesavoirfaire.blogspot.com

So now that you know how, please feel free to join me. 

Outside my window… (weather, what do you hear, what do you see?) is a beautiful sunny day.  I hear birds tweeting and am watching the cat track the rabbits and squirrels running in the yard 🙂

my thoughts…are quiet and chaotic

Today’s Quote:   

I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence, but it comes from within. It is there all the time.

Anna Freud
Austrian psychoanalyst & psychologist (1895 – 1982)

i am thankful for…the sun

i am wearing… workout pants and white long sleeve shirt

my adventures this week…(where are you going this week?) no adventures this week.  my brain needs a break.

Still….life(share a picture you’ve taken OR a picture you found online that speaks to you)  Photo used with permission from:

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Want to start something different.  Here are the direct

ions:

Once a week on Monday you will respond to the above prompts.. more is better. Post your response on your blog or website.

Mention the blog (service savoir faire) and offer a link back to the main page of the blog. This way others can participate in the project as well!  www.servicesavoirfaire.blogspot.com

So now that you know how, please feel free to join me. 

Outside my window… (weather, what do you hear, what do you see?) is a crisp night here in NC.  Quiet sounds, quiet thoughts.

my thoughts…are quiet

Today’s Quote:   

Anyone who takes himself too seriously always runs the risk of looking ridiculous; anyone who can consistently laugh at himself does not.

Vaclav Havel
Czech dissident, dramatist, & politician (1936 – )

i am thankful for…being able to run

From my service training…(any skills, training etc; notes you want to share this week) making more things from scratch as opposed to buying.  Small things (pancake mix, cakes, cookies, pies, spaghetti sauce)

i am wearing… workout pants and white long sleeve shirt

my adventures this week…(where are you going this week?)  hoping that my house will close.  Will be hanging at Capex this weekend.  Demonstration on cutting.

Becoming well read…(What are you reading this week?)Listening to Scott Sigler’s “The All Pro”.

Still….life(share a picture you’ve taken OR a picture you found online that speaks to you)  Photo used with permission from:

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Want to start something different.  Here are the direct

ions:

Once a week on Monday you will respond to the above prompts.. more is better. Post your response on your blog or website.

Mention the blog (service savoir faire) and offer a link back to the main page of the blog. This way others can participate in the project as well!  www.servicesavoirfaire.blogspot.com

So now that you know how, please feel free to join me. 

I have a friend who asked a question a while back about ethical poly.

2. Being in accordance with the accepted principles of right and wrong that govern the conduct of a profession. See Synonyms at moral

http://www.thefreedictionary.com/ethical

She mentioned that not doing anything that staying true to the parameters set between her and her top in their search for a third, no matter how she may feel about it or want it, is what is important to her.

 

I believe that ethics like morals will be something that is extremely personal and the answers will be different for everyone.  But I think we can agree that somethings have pretty set rules for right and wrong (sex with kids, murder, lying (I know there are degrees of lying but it’s still lying)

I think in poly relationships, seeing how there are so many variations, that agreeing to the what would be right and wrong to do for everyone involved would be something set up front.   When that line is crossed however and two are okay with it but the third is not what happens to the relationship?  Can it survive?  I know many say that the Master is the head of the dynamic and what he says should be the deciding factor but what happens when the Master is okay with what is happening to the detriment of the third?

I think those who are involved in poly relationships are very interesting and I have to control myself to not inquire too much into their relationships so that they don’t feel like specimens under glass…lol

I mean how do you deal with emotions that come up when the sub is married to a vanilla person who is not “into” the lifestyle as deep as the sub.  What happens when the sub has a Dom?  Who is responsible for keeping the subs vanilla relationship intact, Dom or sub?

I would attend a seminar or class that delves deeply into poly relationships.  Since Master and I will be adding someone to our relationship I would really like to hear how others deal with issues of time, different styles of poly, etc.

Anyway, those are just my thoughts and queries.  Anyone wishing to add to this please feel free to share your thoughts as well.