Secrets of the Cam Girls…

Vaguely Worried Cam Girl
Vaguely Worried Cam Girl (Photo credit: Maggie Mason (Mighty Girl))

I normally don’t like to read Gizmodo. I find them a bit sensational for my taste. But every once and a while they post something unique and interesting. As I like to talk about sex and sexual thing here on HoV, I thought this story was very suitable. One of their reporters looked into the business of “Cam girls” and the girls who are behind the “Cams”.

 

If you think cam girls—those flirty naked characters that plague porn site pop-up ads—are raking in easy money, you’re right. If you think cam girls are bleakly stripping online out of desperation, you’re also right. Peel away the sex and pixels and money and you’re left with the cloudy truth about the Internet’s relationship status with these on-demand entertainers: it’s complicated.

I really think you should read the whole story: Indentured Servitude, Money Laundering, and Piles of Money: The Crazy Secrets of Internet Cam Girls (NSFW).

 

MV

 

Dan Savage Takes on the President of the National Organization for Marriage

Rather long, but worth it. Go Dan!

Thanks to Jezebel for this video.

MV

Consent and BDSM

A BDSM-style collar that buckles in the back. ...
A BDSM-style collar that buckles in the back. This was a featured picture of Lady Byron (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

It has been brought to my attention that our community is having a discussion about consent. That is a good thing.  I think that consent is one of the Foundations of BDSM. A core principal, along with Honesty and Trust. But what is it and how do we achieve consent in our relationships? What is the role of the Dominant and the  submissive?  Well here is my view of things.

Consent according to the dictionary is:

to give assent or approval :agree

Informed consent is what we are discussing here.  It is paramount that all parties are both aware of the facts, and agree to them. Dominants should clearly lay out what they plan, so far as they are aware. Submissives are also responsible in being truthful with their own desires and capabilities.  And consent can be withdrawn at any time. That doesn’t mean the relationship is over, but it does mean that both sides have to do some heart-searching and mind-searching to figure out why what happened happened.  From being open and honest with each other, there comes the trust. And Informed consensual activity is at the basis of our lives.

Don’t jerk people around. Be honest with them. Tell them what you can do, what you expect from them. This applies to both sides of the power exchange.

 

Ponder that.

MV

Post for Monday

Nothing new with me at the moment.

Our weekend was good.

We saw Batman.  I would recommend it to anyone.  Great wrap up to a trilogy

Sad start to the week with the stuff going on in Colorado.   As President Obama said…life is precious and each moment we have with each other is important.

 

Waste no more time talking about great souls and how they should be. Become one yourself!

Marcus Aurelius Antoninus
Roman Emperor, A.D. 161-180 (121 AD – 180 AD)

To Slaves: Yes you Have a Choice

A BDSM-style collar that buckles in the back. ...
Photo credit: Wikipedia

Ok. I saw something on FetLife today that really annoyed me. A slave essentially said the following:

It isn’t my choice to do this, my Master made me do this.

Bull-fucking-shit.

Yes slaves, unless you are brain-damaged or brainwashed, it is your choice. It may not be your preference but you choose every day to obey and honor your Master. Do not demean that choice by saying that it isn’t yours to make. Own it. Be proud of it.

Now, if you are a slave who is beaten and kept chained naked in an unheated damp basement, then I am wrong in your case. You don’t have a choice. Everyone else, watch your language.

(And if your that chained/caged/beaten slaves master, message me about how the fuck you got away with it.

MV

TSA Frisks a Big Package

Just an amusing little story I found. It seems that it isn’t just luggage that the TSA is checking.  It turns out the worlds largest dick is about 12.5 13.5 inches long.

MV

*Edit*

My slave sent me a video about this guy.