Consent and BDSM

It has been brought to my attention that our community is having a discussion about consent. That is a good thing.  I think that consent is one of the Foundations of BDSM. A core principal, along with Honesty and Trust. But what is it and how do we achieve consent in our relationships? What is theContinue reading “Consent and BDSM”

To Slaves: Yes you Have a Choice

Ok. I saw something on FetLife today that really annoyed me. A slave essentially said the following: It isn’t my choice to do this, my Master made me do this. Bull-fucking-shit. Yes slaves, unless you are brain-damaged or brainwashed, it is your choice. It may not be your preference but you choose every day toContinue reading “To Slaves: Yes you Have a Choice”

Being a Real Master Is Hard Work

I knew this when I started. Being a good master is hard. Really hard.  It requires constant attention to your behavior. Requires consistency in your actions. That doesn’t mean you can’t grow. You can change. But you need to allow your slave to adjust. Watch out for love. It will sap your will. It willContinue reading “Being a Real Master Is Hard Work”