The House of Void

Sir has asked that i post about the Southeast Leather Fest (SELF). Before this i only knew that this was an annual kink friendly event. During my research I have found that it is much more than that. The short description from Wikipedia (i love this site, you can find information on almost anything) SELF is an annual adult fetish event for the BDSM, leather and kink communities based in the United States‘ Southeast and centered in Georgia with regional and smaller related events held throughout the year. However the longer description for SELF is so much more than that. Interested in finding out more click here. If that has peeked your interest click here to go to their site.

Would love to hear your comments about SELF…drop me a line and let me know what you think.

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I came across this story in the Globe and Mail (a Canadian newspaper). It discusses the dangers of BDSM that have been in the news lately. It seems to treat us fairly, but distantly. It would seem that the authors only familiarity with us is from the research in this article.  It relies heavily on college professors and sex therapist, but a bright spot comes from Susan Wright from the NCSF.

“What you might interpret as pain, another person in the right context interprets that as heightened pleasure,” said Susan Wright, spokeswoman for the U.S.-based National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, who also engages in S&M. “It’s different from violence or abuse in that those are cycles of control in terms of non-consensual control.”

Ms. Wright said sadomasochists often set specific ground rules before a session to establish limits and code words that tell their partner to stop. Even those who haven’t done extensive research on the subject should know their partner’s limits, she said.

“It’s common sense. It’s not like we’re doing brain surgery here. We’re tying people up and having sex.”

I would like to note that all of the recent stories have been involving breath play. I do some of that myself with esclave, and the only advice I have for you is be very very careful.  We don’t need to loose any more members of our community.

Are you looking for an alternative to the  likes of Alt or Bondage.com? Then check out CollarMe.  It is completely free as far as I can tell, there are lots of people on it (though please be careful of scammers). It even looks very nice. I understand that the forums are pretty good too, though I haven’t used them.

If you have some experience with CollarMe, let us know in the comments section.

Found this article giving advice to a man with a submissive.  The column is a regular sex advice column but this one is more kink friendly.

 My question is on dom/sub slave etiquette. Assuming that things with this new woman work out, at what point should I break up with my sub? Should I tell her about the other woman? Should I tell her in advance we are ending (“Your next visit will be our last”), or should I just ask her to come over and break up then (“We both knew this was only going to last so long”)? Do I help her find a new dom? This isn’t a regular breakup, so I’m not really sure how to do it. My sub loves to serve, so would it be cheating on my next girlfriend if I let her keep doing domestic tasks for me, but nothing sexual? Should I tell my next girlfriend that I had a sex slave for a while? —Deciding On Method