A Death in the Family

I was going to make a lite humorous post today, relating to some steampunk sex toys. That isn’t to be. Instead, I want to tell you about a friend of mine. Darque DeSade. Darque was a photographer and artist living in New York. We met through our times at BlackBEAT. He was a character. IContinue reading “A Death in the Family”

FetLife: A New User’s Guide part 1

FetLife really changed the game when it came online back in 2008. FetLife was a different sort of social networking site. Before it existed, the kink community congregated in sites like Alt.com, CollarMe.com and Bondage.com. While they all served their purpose, and had thriving forums, they were first and foremost a meat market. Their focusContinue reading “FetLife: A New User’s Guide part 1”

The Road Map to Leadership

Sometime last year I was reading Seth Godin’s book “Linchpin: Are You Indispensable?” and in it he mentions something he calls the road map to leadership. This is a fantastic book on how to make you indispensable as an employee. But I wanted to focus on something he wrote on leadership. Basically, some people wouldContinue reading “The Road Map to Leadership”

LA Dungeon Scene of Murder and Fire

I found out about this disturbing news this weekend. While it is scene related, I think it is more of a case of work place violence.  Basically, it seems that the alleged murderer was fired from the club earlier, then came back, shot the owner in the head and set fire to the club. ItContinue reading “LA Dungeon Scene of Murder and Fire”

Electrical Play Basics: TENS Unit

I believe that the best way to begin with electrical play is the TENS unit. (TENS means Transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation.) A Tens unit is a box you use to generate an electrical pulse which is used in medicine for pain control. We don’t use it for that. Instead, we use it to stimulate theContinue reading “Electrical Play Basics: TENS Unit”