A Few Thoughts

2 11 2011

It has been an interesting couple of months. My slave moved in, I’ve been sick. My current job was ending. Time passed.

I got better. More or less. At least as healthy as I was before.

My slave is here. There are adjustments I have had to make. Adjustments she has had to make. There are others we have to keep in mind (her kids). I think the hardest part is that we were used to being on our own.

But, we are making it. One day at a time.

It is a journey. My hand in hers. A process.

One that has to succeed.


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M/s Thoughts

22 06 2011

Soon my slave will be moving in. She is undergoing a lot more changes in her life than I am.  For me, all I have to deal with is 3 people in my house 24/7. For her, she has to leave the home she bought. Pack all of her belongings that she wishes to keep. Throw away the stuff she doesn’t. Quit her job. Get a moving truck. Move. Unpack. Settle herself and her children in. Do what I need to be done. Deal with her children’s issues with the move. Find a new job.

Yep, sometimes it is good to be the Master. But part of my role is to understand all of this. Do what I can to help with the transitions. Try to make the move easier. Buy one or two items that we need to make their life here easier.

Be a rock for her to lean on. Her shelter from the storms. And to not be another problem for her to deal with. So while I could ask her to do things for me (I come up with small task all the time, it helps for slaves to have something to do. It makes them feel useful), I hold back. I do more for myself.  I do not want to overburden my slave.

After all, I will have decades to overburden her once she arrives.

MV


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Master Void and esclave Presents: Mastering a Long Distance Relationship

30 03 2011

esclave and I presented our Mastering a Long Distance Relationship presentation last night at the MBZ conference..  A lot of folks wondered where they could get the slides that I used. So I offered to put them up here, at House of Void. So, click, download Mastering A Long Distance Relationship and enjoy!

MV

Oh, and if you have never been to the MBZ conferee, I highly recommend it. It is a free online conference hosted every week by Master Zeus on Tuesday and Thursday nights at nine pm eastern.


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Consistency

9 03 2011

Consistency. That is a word that is often used in our community, but do we really understand what it means?  It doesn’t mean being strict. It doesn’t mean being boring or being repetitive. What it means is that you are the same now as when you began the relationship. It doesn’t mean your interests can’t change.  It doesn’t mean that you don’t grow as an individual. It does mean you are rational in your progress as a person. The growth and changes are rational. That your slave can see where you were and where you are, and that the core is there.

One example from my relationship is how I manage the tasks I give my girl.  I tell her to do things, and then I watch.  I may not pay attention every day, but I know what I have asked her to do and after the time together she does too. I monitor things, and watch and while I may not comment every day, I will eventually. She knows this. This is how I have been from day one.  Is this the right thing for your relationship? Maybe yes, maybe no, but it works for ours. If she doesn’t do what she is supposed to, she knows I will hang her by her actions. Or will reward her as well.

So I am consistent. I have done this since day one. I may not be consistent as you define it, but I am consistent in a way she understand.

How do you define consistency in your relationships?

MV


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2010: A Few Thoughts to End a Year

31 12 2010

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2010 has been a very interesting year for those in the House of Void. I was in the middle of an implosion of my local community, when one of the leaders began a rabid campaign against anyone who had different views, I lost my job, got a new one, had to back out of a major commitment, got a servant, and even got married. It was a very big year.

But as I think back, I think it was over all a good year. The positives out weighed the negatives. I want to finish up this year with a thought. As a Master, it is my job to inspire my slave, not merely have her serve me. I linked to this video (Firework by Katy Perry) because I think it embodies that ideal. We have to bring out the best in our slaves and submissives by being their inspiration. And, every so often, it works in reverse too. Yes, my slave has inspired me to push myself, to get me out of my confort zone, just as I have inspired her. Someone told me once that a Master/slave relationship is an unequal relationship between equal people. I firmly believe this. I live this.

So, next year, be an inspiration to your partner. And try to see if your partner inspires you too.

MV


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Masters: Study Slavery

7 10 2010

OK, this is going to be a short post. I wanted to talk about something for the Masters today.  We have to know a lot of stuff to be good at what we do. But I think that one of the things that is often ignored is the importance of a Master of knowing what is good service.

I would implore you to read all that you can about the subject. Become an expert on what it takes to serve. Know the mind set. Frankly, the mindset is alien to me, but I have learned over the years to appreciate it and to know what it takes to be a good one.

Remember to buy the slave book and read them first, before you hand them to your slave. It is just as important to know these things first as it is to know the other more Masterly topics.

Anyway,  that is my thought for today.

MV


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