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Tags: Critiques, Leadership, Lifestyle, Linchpin, Seth Godin
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Sometime last year I was reading Seth Godin’s book “Linchpin: Are You Indispensable?” and in it he mentions something he calls the road map to leadership. This is a fantastic book on how to make you indispensable as an employee. But I wanted to focus on something he wrote on leadership.
Basically, some people would come to him and ask him the best way to be a leader. His point was that there was no road map to leadership. Each and every leader has to find his or her own path. To be a good leader, you usually have to fail a lot first. You make mistakes, you fuck up. But you learn from them. If you’re a good leader, you don’t keep on making the same mistake over and over again. Hopefully you make entirely new fuckups.
But you grow and you learn. And eventually you do great things. And as a leader you will have to deal with people who come to you with complaints about what you are doing. Some are very passionate, some are just real jerks. All want you to hear them.
This leads me to a second point I want to make. I was listening to a podcast (Restaurant Guys Radio Show, if you’re curious). In it there was a wine maker that was talking about how to get results with your critiques. I liked her approach. While not Lifestyle related, I like learning what I can from whom I can. No sense reinventing the wheel.
What she said is that if you want to make a difference with your criticism, don’t just say they are missing up. Give them options. If you see me fuck up, and you want to tell me about it, the way not to do it is to come to me and say, “Void, you are fucking up.” You need to come to me and tell me in what way I am messing up and what clever way you have about how not to fuck up in the future. Just coming to a leader and saying that they are bad and can’t do crap is a quick way to be ignored. Not that they want to, but that they have to focus on the issue at hand. Unless you have a solution, then it is probably best to be quiet.
Anyway, those are my thoughts for this evening. I would be interested in hearing your thoughts on these subjects.
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Tags: Atlanta, BDSM, Conventions, Detroit, Dom Con Atlanta, DomCon, Leadership, Leather, Leather Leadership
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I noted a few conventions coming up, and I thought I would post about them so you keep them on your radar. One I am planning on going to, the other two are pretty good too.
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The first one started yesterday, and lasts through Sunday. DomCon – Atlanta, is a professional and Lifestyle domination convention. It has a interesting combination of classes for everyone and specific presentations for professionals. If you’re already in the area, a visit here could be very productive. I know a lot of my friends in Atlanta will be there. A one day pass is only $20 at the door. That is pretty reasonable in my book.
In October 2009, DomCon will be celebrating it’s 6 Year Anniversary in Atlanta, and will continue in it’s effort to bring the BDSM, Fetish and Leather Communities together to celebrate our commonality and respect our differences, to learn from each other, and to enjoy the company of each other for an unforgettable weekend. Read the rest of this entry »
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From their website:
In 1997, John Weis and his NYSMA colleagues joined forces to produce the first Leather Leadership Conference. Their goal was to produce training sessions for current and potential leaders of the SM/Leather/Fetish community. The first conference, held in NYC, drew more than 40 participants.
Elated, John sought input from others and continued the concept. In 1998 the LLC II conference, also in NYC, drew 125 people and produced two policy statements, “The Difference Between SM and Abuse” and “BDSM Education”.
In 1999, the conference moved to San Francisco, attracting approximately 275 participants. At the same time, the informal Board of Governors decided to formalize the organization. Leather Leadership Conference, Inc. was incorporated, and and its 501(c)(3) status was approved by the IRS in 2005 retroactively to 1999.
April 3-5 next year. I really want to go…