I am going to be delving into tea research the next few weeks. I am going to publish some of the more interesting stuff here.
MV
I am going to be delving into tea research the next few weeks. I am going to publish some of the more interesting stuff here.
MV
I’m seeing something today that I find interesting. More and more I am seeing new people into the scene looking for sex. Pain and Sex. Control and Sex. Spankings and Sex. Bondage and Sex. Very different from the world I came of age in.
When I started out, I was directed to improve myself. Learn control. Learn how to manipulate the flash of my partner. Bring agony and ecstasy to my partner. Sex would come to eventually, with the right person.And it would be great. Don’t limit your options by only playing with those you would fuck. Instead sample a wide variety. Try different skills. Learn. Grow. Be a better Dominant for your submissive, but play with those that were available so you can be better.
I think it is what made me a good Master for my esclave. We have sex, but our relationship is not based on sex. Sex is good, but Control is better. She knows her place. I know mine. We are both happier this way. And sex is better this way.
But there were a whole lot of people before her that I played with that allowed me to be who I am with her.And I appreciate them for the opportunity for growth they allowed me.
Some couldn’t imagine doing what they do without a sexual relationship. I can respect this, but I think they are missing out on a while lot Opportunities to learn and grow. How can you know if your partner will like something if you don’t take the time to become good at it? The first time may be so bad they never want to do it again, while a more experienced player can tell you what you are doing well.
Look at the acronym BDSM. Originally this meant Bondage and Discipline plus Sadism and Masochism. Later, Domination and Submission was added to round out the group. Bondage is tying someone up.Discipline means control and pain. Sadism is about inflicting pain, Masochism means receiving pain. Domination and Submission are about taking and giving up control.
Where is the Sex in that list? It isn’t there. And I think there is a reason for that.
Let me know what you think, in the comments.
MV
It has been an interesting couple of months. My slave moved in, I’ve been sick. My current job was ending. Time passed.
I got better. More or less. At least as healthy as I was before.
My slave is here. There are adjustments I have had to make. Adjustments she has had to make. There are others we have to keep in mind (her kids). I think the hardest part is that we were used to being on our own.
But, we are making it. One day at a time.
It is a journey. My hand in hers. A process.
One that has to succeed.
I thought I would make it a trifecta of articles on the Conference I attended this weekend. I must say that over all, I really enjoyed the conference. It was good to see my friends again, some of whom I haven’t seen in years. The vendors had an excellent selection of products. I missed out on buying a vest for esclave, but I am sure that who ever won it will get good use from it.
And I enjoyed visiting the library and sitting at Vi’s feet. I learned things about our history. Asked questions. Found a very odd book (on mamology of all things) in the library. I heard my elders and contemporaries (even some fresher faces too) tell stories of days past.
The only negative thing I would say is that there wasn’t enough tracks. The stories were all in sequence. I wish that there were other “tracks” as it were, choices in who to hear. But I guess they wanted to film it all and that make it difficult.
It is somewhat strange to see our history being recorded. We tend to be paranoid about cameras in our culture. With good reason too. Too many of us have been hurt by others that do not understand us.
But times are changing. And that does make me glad.
Too much of our history is lost.
MV