Mastery Lessons From an Old House

26 05 2010

I live in an old house. Really old, you know built two centuries ago old. The kind of house that creaks a bit when you get home. But it is warm and comfortable and I love it. I love spending time here. I love living here.  It is HOME. I think you know what I mean.

When I came home tonight, I realized that I would need to spend some time this weekend on the “maintainance” of the house. I saw some light getting in through a joint in the wall. I noticed my screen door isn’t closing right. That means I need to run out, get some things to fix it up. Take the door off the hinge and sand it so it fits back in the frame right.

Such are the pleasures of home ownership.

But if I want a nice place to live, these are the things I have to do.  Otherwise wood rot sets in and the  foundations of the house crumbles.

The same can be said of the relationship of a Master and a slave. Every once and  a while, you have to sit back and really examine your relationship. Make sure they joints are all fitting together. The windows and doors all work right.

And if they don’t, you have to fix them. Sit down and work out why they aren’t working. Maybe talk things over with your slave, if you are in that kind of relationship. Make the changes that need to be made.

And if you do, maybe your relationship will last 1/3 as long as my house has stood.

MV


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Service Book of Days 5/24/10

24 05 2010

v Outside my window… (weather, what do you hear, what do you see?) is a dark night but a relief from the brief humidity of today.

v my thoughts… are on sinking into my slavery to Master.  It is sometimes the things I make decisions on without keeping Master in mind is what makes me stumble sometimes.

v Today’s Quote: When a man takes one step toward God, God takes more steps toward that man than there are sands in the worlds of time.

The Work of the Chariot

v i am thankful for…pretty flowers.

v From my service training…(any skills, training etc; notes you want to share this week)  mindful decisions that flow within my slavery to Master.

v From the kitchen…(menu for the week, what are you cooking?)  Nothing new this week.

v i am wearing…my workout clothes.  Black Tank and Black pants.

v i am creating…(crafts, sewing etc;) myself into the best shape of my life.  I started doing the muscle and fitness hers challenge in order to build more muscle and to do something with my daughter.  It has been most enjoyable doing this with her and having something to relate with.

v my adventures this week…(where are you going this week?)  No adventures.

v Becoming well read…(What are you reading this week?) No books this week.

v i manifest and co-create…(what are your hopes, dreams, and prayers this week)  Life to the full.

v Today’s Melody…(what music are you listening to? even if it’s just the sound of a bird…) Why by Kirk Franklin (“Hero” CD)

v One of my favorite things…Lifting weights while the men in the gym look…hey I’m vain and an exhibitionist…I like to be watched…lol

v further plans for this week…Nothing this week.   Keeping it close to home.

v Still….life(share a picture you’ve taken OR a picture you found online that speaks to you)  Photo used with permission from:http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.5/

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Want to start something different.  Here are the directions:

Once a week on Monday you will respond to the above prompts.. more is better. Post your response on your blog or website.

Mention the blog (service savoir faire) and offer a link back to the main page of the blog. This way others can participate in the project as well!   www.servicesavoirfaire.blogspot.com

So now that you know how, please feel free to join me. :)


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Torture Can Be a Very Bad Thing

19 05 2010

Found this on the web.  Remember torture is only acceptable if it is consensual, and the parties come out the other side alive and intact (well mostly intact, lol).

10 Things to Know About Torture
[Source: Medical Billing and Coding]


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Service Book of Days 5/17/10

17 05 2010
  • Outside my window… (weather, what do you hear, what do you see?)  is dark as I am writing this one at night.
  • my thoughts…are angry and a bit frustrated.  You know sometimes things get so frustrating.  I am going to think about and let it go but for right now I am going to own this and not put on a happy face for the masses.
  • Today’s Quote… Try to allow your life to unfold like a flower rather than worrying and making predictions which cause stress. This was taken from my Daily OM.  You can find it at www.dailyom.com

I like this one.  My life will unfold the way it is supposed to.

  • i am thankful for…warm weather
  • From my service training…(any skills, training etc; notes you want to share this week) nothing at the moment
  • From the kitchen…(menu for the week, what are you cooking?)  lighter fair, less carbs and more protein.
  • i am wearing… blue sweatpants and my hello kitty tank top.
  • i am creating…(crafts, sewing etc;)  nothing at the moment.
  • my adventures this week…(where are you going this week?)  no adventures this week.  I will be hanging around the house and painting stuff.
  • Becoming well read…(What are you reading this week?)  Listening to my podcasts.
  • i manifest and co-create…(what are your hopes, dreams, and prayers this week) Longevity.
  • Today’s Melody…(what music are you listening to? even if it’s just the sound of a bird…) Kirk Franklins “First Love”
  • One of my favorite things…dinner or breakfast by myself at a nice restaurant.  I love treating myself to something good to eat.
  • further plans for this week…keeping it low…no plans for the week.
  • Still….life(share a picture you’ve taken OR a picture you found online that speaks to you)  Photo used with permission via creative commons copyright:http://www.everystockphoto.com/photo.php?imageId=2095855

Here are the directions these post:

Once a week on Monday you will respond to the above prompts.. more is better. Post your response on your blog or website.

Mention my blog (service savoir faire) and offer a link back to the main page of the blog. This way others can participate in the project as well!  www.servicesavoirfaire.blogspot.com

Also, feel free to look around the service site as it has many pieces of great information/resources.

So now that you know how, please feel free to join me.


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More Poledancing

14 05 2010

Sometimes you just want to relax and watch a beautiful woman dance. Pole dancing combines sensual-eroticism and sheer athleticism. These women are in fantastic shape and display a great deal of skill in their displays (for the most part).  I found an advertisement for this years pole-dancing competition in NYC (already past sadly). Still we have this video. Enjoy!

MV


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Thoughts on Quality

12 05 2010

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I started this blog a little over three years ago. I have learned over time to be consistent with my posting, trying to get something interesting on this site at least three times a week. Once by my lovely slave, and two times by me. But sometimes life gets in the way. Every once and a while, my muse provides me with no inspiration (or even time on occasion) to post. I would rather focus on quality than quantity. And I have been trying to make my posts better, not just throwing up a video, but explaining why I chose that video.

I think that is true too for a M/s (Master and slave) relationship. All relationships really.

It is particularly dangerous in a M/s Relationship to just coast. To become too focused on the wrote matters of day to day living and life. Each of us must remember to focus on the quality of the relationship, rather on the quantity in the relationship. You cannot make up with time for a lack of devotion to the relationship. The Master must master. The slave must serve. Both must be within the relationship, neither can coast.

Thus is the danger in life of coasting. I am prone to do this, I get comfortable in things, say my job, and don’t think about improving things or changing things until I am pushed to do so. But I can do this in my job.  I cannot do this with my slave.

I must continually push her to be better, and she must in turn challenge me to be the Master she disserves. That isn’t to say that she is going to ever be perfect. And it certainly doesn’t mean that she is topping me when she challenges me. What it does mean is that we each have to strive to be the best of what we are in our relationship.

We are compliments in this relationship.

I complete her submission. I give her purpose and focus in life.

She completes my Mastery. She provides the fulcrum to focus my will upon.

Together we make art. But if either one is absent in the relationship, the art fails. We are incomplete.

Quality over quantity.

I have learned this from writing here. I have had this reinforced by my relationship with my slave, so may states away.

Peace and Tranquility

MV



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