My space

23 07 2008

kneeling on my cushion, legs slightly parted, back straight, palms up and head slightly bowed.  This is where i find my place and my space and peace.

Each night I am to be in my space for 20 minutes.

Being a single mom with tons of responsibility it is hard to just sit and enjoy the moment.  I am often wondering, planning, and doing things for my family and people around me.  Very rarely does my mind stop thinking of something that needs to be done.

At first when i get in to position my mind wanders through many different subjects but through deep breathing techniques and centering myself ultimately my mind settles into just being. Just being the in moment and opening myself up to the universe is very freeing.  This is what Sir has been teaching me the art of just being.

Doing nothing but being here.





Thank You

22 07 2008

I just wanted to say thanks to the readers.  Today marks two mile stones.  First month with over 1k visitors, and first day with 100 visitors.

I just wanted to say Thank you!

MV





The Curious Case of the Kinky Dr. Beaton

21 07 2008

Ok, so Mr. Beaton isn’t a Dr.  Instead he is a disturbed psychologist who abused his patients trust, as well as making the kinky community look bad. I found it via the West, and Australian news site.

A former Fremantle psychologist who used bondage and discipline role-playing to treat a 22-year-old bulimic woman has been ordered to see a psychiatrist after arguing he should not face disciplinary proceedings because he had post traumatic stress disorder since being cleared of sexually assaulting the client.

Bruce Alistair Beaton was acquitted last year of unlawful and indecent assault, and aggravated sexual penetration of the young woman, who also claimed the psychologist whipped her with a homemade cat-o’-nine-tails while treating her between January and March 2005.

During Mr Beaton’s highly publicised trial, the District Court was shown hidden camera recordings in which the then-64-year-old called the woman his “submissive”, describing her as “delicious” and telling her he was going to “enjoy” her and “have a taste” of her. The woman, who wore a dog collar in the footage, was told to “kneel” before reading an oath pledging her body and mind to her “master”.

It is very sad that this reenforces the steriotypes that people have of us in the Lifestyle.  What do you all think?  Let me know in the comments.

MV





Another Visit with Esclave

20 07 2008

esclave lives a very long way away from me.  Well not as far as all that, but far enough that it makes visiting her very troublesome. I enjoy the time I get to spend with her.  She remembers her place mostly, standing behind me and to the left. It is good to be with her, and it is anoying when she is gone.

She is on her way home tonight, and I look forward to talking with her again when she arrives safely.

MV





BDSM from the BBC

17 07 2008

I follow some of the BBC stuff.  I ran across this article today and I thought you would find this interesting. There has been a big scandal in Europe involving some sort of Big Wig in racing and a prostitute.  Still it lead the BBC to write this article on BDSM practices and I found it fairly good.  Enjoy.

Nobody knows how many people are involved in the “scene”: a loose grouping of people across the country who enjoy an unorthodox – and under current laws potentially illegal – sexual lifestyle. However, one US study suggests 11% of women and 14% of men have engaged in BDSM – an abbreviation for bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism and masochism – activities.

A “dominant” calling himself Sir Guy says it’s a “chance to forget all adult responsibilities and – in the best sense of the word – be irresponsible. One of my puppies [his term for a submissive] refers to his sessions as ‘holidays from humanity’.”

Let me know what you think, in the comments

MV





How to Spot a CollarMe Scammer

14 07 2008

So I get back from visiting my girl, and I check my email this morning and I spot this gem in it.  I am sharing this with you so we can look for clues to spot an Collarme scam. (Just so you know, I really like CollarMe and I go there every day,  but I do see a lot of scammers there so consider this my being a good citizen part).

User Name:

Description:

City:

State:

Distance:

Relocation:

Height:

Weight:

Age:

Orientation:

Ethnicity:

Joined:

Last Online:

ursdaling

Submissive Female

Denver

Colorado

1334 miles

Willing to Relocate

5’7″

170 lbs

25

Straight

African American

07/14/08

07/14/08

Lives For:

Bar Hopping (Expert)

Loves:

SCA (Expert)

Travel (Expert)

Likes:

Art Galleries (Expert)

Beachcombing (Expert)

Opera (Expert)

Shopping (Expert)

Tolerates:

Garage Sales (Expert)

Curious About:

Fine Dining (Beginner)

The first thing I look at is the height and weight. Many of the scammers are used to the metric system, and the numbers are often way off.  someone weighing 50lbs and standing at 5’6″ is way too thin for even my tastes.

But things look good so far. So lets look at the contents of the actual message.

Hello Dear,
How are you today ?,My name is Kamah ,I’m 5.7 fight,fair in completion ,i saw your profile today and after going true of it i was moved by the quality of human i found in your profile,and i became instant interested in knowing you the more,but i will like you to no that distance ,age or color dose not matter but what maters is love and understanding and being honest to each other. i will like you contact me true my direct mailing address so that i will give you my picture and tell you more about me.( kamah1984@yahoo.com )i have SOMETHING VERY IMPORTANT to tell you.Good to hear from you,
kamah1984@yahoo.com
Yours dream love.
Kamah

Wow, where do I start. crazy punctuation, “5.7 fight”; “going true of it”, “does”, “honest to each other”,  and finally, she wants me to contact me through her email for a first contact.  Use your common sense, if it doesn’t look right, move on.  It is likely a scam.

MV








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